I Live In a Sexless Marriage
I really dont know why I am writing this since from reading the posts its seems common and somewhat a hopless situation. But maybe it will make me feel a little better. Married 17yrs ago now both 40. She was not very sexually experienced and only my 2nd. First few years were very slim with sex which she blames on her ignorance. I did the norm books,videos everything. It did not get better. We decided to have a child and things didnt get better. I found out there was a medical problem with me(which devastated me, her not so much) Anywho, we decided to get donor and had our son. For nine months no sex at all I could barely care because I was so distraught by the fact I would never have a child of my own.(I do love my son) After that sex few and far between as usual. We have had the talks and read books( His needs her needs good book by the way). But no long lasting or exciting change. She says its her fault and doesnt know what to do about it but doesnt really say what her problem is.???She doesnt really like to talk about it at all and will ignore anything I say about it. Well here we are 17yrs later we may have sex twice a month when she sees the anger boiling up in me and then she just lays there and waits for me to make her *** and finish myself then. Just waits until she sees the need to shut me up again like some game.I have only come close to cheating on her twice in 17yrs and could not go thru with it because of guilt. I am angry,hurt, disappointed and tired of all of it. Thats the short version on me
By:
nclaw
Age:
36-40
