7 Easy Ways To Attract Your Husband

Seven Easy Ways to Attract Your Husband

Ladies, it’s time to turn off the comfortability and turn on the sex appeal with our husbands! Here’s some simple ways to get him noticing us again.

1. Hygiene

It’s so easy to get into a routine where we are simply comfortable with our men. We decide that we don’t really need to take a shower, that they’re going to love us anyway, even in our funk. We decide it’s okay to go without wearing deodorant because they’ll love us anyway. Sure they will, but it’s definitely not attractive!

Think of how you attracted your husband in the beginning of your relationship! You were definitely clean, showered, and I guarantee you went a little overboard with the perfume! Look where it got you! He promised to spend the rest of his life with you, so let’s keep ourselves smelling nice, ladies. Take a shower. Brush your teeth. Don’t be scared of the deodorant. Please, wear perfume.

We’ll not only attract him, but we’ll feel better about ourselves and maybe, just maybe, we’ll get compliments from others that would help boost our own encouragement, which is always sexy! It does say in the Bible in Proverbs 27:9 that “…perfume makes the heart glad.” Let’s make our husbands’ heart glad!

2. Dress to Impress

I know, I know… we women love those sweats! I have to agree that I would much rather choose sweats and a t-shirt over a dress and heels. However, we don’t necessarily need to overdo the scrubby look. Some men do like this “natural” look, but keep it fresh and try to look nice for your man every now and then. You don’t need to wear a dress or heels, but I can bet that each and every one of you have something “sexy” in your closet that you can bring out, even if it’s not a special occasion. Just a reminder – if you follow through with #1, you’ll look and feel great without fulfilling #2! Not only does it feel great to look stunning, but your husband will be all over you.

3. Lips & Eyes

Keep your gloss or lipstick in your purse at all times! Eyeliner is a must have! You never know when you’ll need it. A little goes a long way! I’ve asked many of my friends what item in their makeup bag was most important and often I’ve heard, “Lipstick, eyeliner or mascara.” Your eyes and your lips are always looked at. Forget about the blush and the foundation. As long as you keep your lips looking absolutely kissable and your eyes bold as ever, you’ll have your man noticing you.

4. Body Maintenance

I’m not talking about spending hundreds on spa treatments or anything of the sort. What I’m going to suggest can easily be done in the comfort of your home. Keep your fingernails and your toes looking well maintained. There’s nothing worse than having some unpainted, dirty, stained toes that might need a little trim or fingernails with chipped polish. If you can’t afford getting to the salon to get your usual manicure/pedicure, do it yourself. The color red symbolizes passion and love… just a suggestion if you’re thinking of attracting him in that way. Also, shave those legs. Period. (His shaver probably works best.)

5. No Nagging Allowed – Attitude Adjustment

Easier said than done. When your husband doesn’t do something that you wanted him to do, be quiet about it. Before you say something, think about it first and think about how you can say it gently. Trust me, this is a tactic that works well. Men don’t ask for a lot. They do hate nagging wives, though. I’m a woman who looks to the Bible for advice on my marriage and how to be a better wife.

In the wonderful book of Proverbs, it says that it’s better to live on the corner of a roof than to live with a quarrelsome wife. Don’t try to change your husband or control him. Trying to tell your husband to change is pretty much like telling him how to breathe differently. It’s not going to happen and if it does, it won’t come without resentment on his part. Let’s be happy with who they are as men. Only the beauty of a true woman, with a gentle and quiet spirit, can truly change a man for the better.

6. Confidence

You’ve heard it before – confidence is attractive. It sure is! Even our husbands are capable of seeing confidence shining through us. Be confident in yourself, in him, and in your marriage. When I say confident, it means that you trust yourself and you trust

him. You should never accuse him for things you might feel suspicious of. You can easily say that you trust him, but he’ll know and so will others if you do in fact trust him completely. When you talk to your friends about him, your trust or lack of, will definitely show in the way that you talk about him. Don’t ever bash your husband.

It’s really sad to hear a woman talk trash about her own husband. We need to be confident of his character. We did marry him, right? Usually, accusations come from our own insecurities. Don’t drive your husband away with this common mistake. Confidence also means you don’t question his motives, you don’t give him the third degree about everything, you don’t get angry at him for “looking” at other women. That’s a big no-no. If you’re looking, he probably is, too. Get over it. There are other pretty women out there, too. So the sooner you believe in yourselfand in him, the sooner you can walk day to day in a confidence that attracts him and others as well.

7. Get Physical

Don’t think that it’s okay to go a long time without sex. Most women don’t have the sex drive of a man. Men are like animals. The truth is, if we don’t give it to them, they’re probably going to get it somewhere else whether it’s by ************ or worst case, infidelity.  And when they do, you can’t put all of the blame on them if you’re

withholding sex as a means of selfishness or punishment.

I understand that people have busy lives, people are tired, and the best excuse of all – people are not in the mood. That is a poor, poor excuse.

Some people don’t really understand the concept of selfishness, but when we don’t give our husbands something that they so desperately need (trust me, men NEED sex), then we’re only giving them a reason to look elsewhere. Being selfless means that we put their needs as a top priority. We need to be understanding to their needs as men. I know that sounds silly, but it’s the truth. We have given ourself to our husband and our responsibility as a wife is to keep him happy and keep him satisfied, especially if you don’t want him wandering into other yards, searching for his fulfillment there.

Your marriage is absolutely more important than any other relationship because once your marriage falls apart, most likely everything else will, too. If you make sure to nurture your marriage, make time for each other (even when you have children), and keep things physical, then everything else falls into place. You don’t necessarily have to have sex, but simple touching here and there – kissing, caressing, etc. Like I’ve said, a little goes a long way. As to sexy lingerie, sweety16 is a good choice.

both of the quality and the price are good.

cathy2341 cathy2341
61 Responses Nov 9, 2010

What rubbish!


Ok my husband has all that but he is not looking for me to have sex,he says that I m a hot mama, and I m, and I want to have sex every day and he is ok once. Month , why? What I have to do?.. He sys that I m sexy nd the best lover that ever he had. So why it's wrong ?

thnx dear its a really gud tips as well as a gud advice... thnks a lot i really needed this..:)

Cathy_____ Will you marry me?????? I think I just fell in love!!!

no ok I didn't even finish reading this, im sorry but if there is a problem, you speak up, yes remain polite but it isn't a world anymore where the man is the only person who rules the house, if he leaves his s**t on the floor, tell the lazy p***k to pick it up, if he cheats, its not my fault, its his, there is NO excuse for infidelity at all... If im not feeling well or whatever I'm not just going to hand my body over because my partner is horny...you say as a wife we have to keep our men happy, as a HUSBAND they need to keep us happy too... goes both ways... just my opinion but this article is quite sexist...

You might want to read this again and again. I think the part about selfishness may help.

no i disagree with you, its a new day and age where we are EQUAL, it works both ways, this post is all about the man pretty much, and all I see in the \"selfishness\" part is women need to do as their told... I don\'t think so... each to their own but, if you think this is a helpful post then good for you, I on the other hand do not and was simply stating my opinion :)

Thank you so much mad'm
I m into a relation n soon gona b engaged
Hv learnt lot frm ur article
N loved it too
Though watevr mentioned is sumthing i hv in me n he is happy with d way i m ..

My husband is 86 born and i 83, every time i am the one who is ******* in this relation. If i am not saying anything or giving him comfortable zone at home doing each and everything like cooking, clothing, cleaning etc also enjoying a day with him then he is happy but if i said anything some day to him then he dont like to tolerate.
I am the one who is communicating to his and my family, society even do part time work as will, but if i talk about him he only earn for home. we are two of them living alone still we dont have good understanding. i did everything all compromises but failed.

my husband does not like kissing.but i like kissing,but he never kiss me.what do i

You have good points. I have 3 yrs baby. He cares me a lot. But always tired. Not interested in sex. We have once for a month. Even I wear perfect dresses. No makeup. He won't like make-up. l fully adjust n go with him. Love marriage. Starting from marriage this problem going on. Please help me!

You have good points. I have 3 yrs baby. He cares me a lot. But always tired. Not interested in sex. We have once for a month. Even I wear perfect dresses. No makeup. He won't like make-up. l fully adjust n go with him. Love marriage. Starting from marriage this problem going on. Please help me!

You have good points. But we are married since 5 months. He cares me & loves me a lot. But always tired. Not interested in sex. We have once or twice in a week . Even I wear perfect dresses. No makeup. He won't like make-up. l fully adjust n go with him. It was Love marriage. Starting from marriage this problem going on & now gradually it's increasing day by day Please help me!....

Nice advice. Liked it

what to do when he says too tired mostly every day because of work?

good article...worth reading!

thank you so much

I love the advices...and the scriptures mentioned. I believe women need to take charge to please their husbands. That's just personal beliefs! Enjoyed it, even if this was just an advertisement :)

yes, i agree wid u i m doing everything to attract my hubby ,i luv him a lot ,but i dont know whats happen to him ,he does not caring me from last 2 yrs,he is not willing to do sex with me ,but the great problem wid me is i really shout like anything when he is doing wrong. i have small kid of 3yrs.what do i do?

While I agree with all you have to say; what do you do when your man finds fault in almost all you wear (NO I am not talking about sweats); your makeup (most often never dark enough), your perfume (can smell thousands of women's perfume but never your's), doesn't find you sexually attractive seemingly even when you are wearing a white lace nightie and gyrating to whatever music he has picked for the night? I love him madly but am beginning to feel is it VERY much one sided.

Wow you people are evil maybe thats why your marriage sucks. Once you love a man even for his flaws, it'll turn the biggest a hole into a gentle men, or maybe you married someone God did not have planned for you and this one is your learning experience, but no need to be so demonic and evil, youll get no where with anyone acting like that.

The members here (both men and women) have done the popular pseudo -relationship fix its to death to no avail and the OP might find it useful to bear in mind that the members here (quite a sizable number I might add) would know a great deal more about the sexless marriage experience and seriously, these so called 7 easy ways do not stand up to scrutiny here.

hi cathy.. don't mind them.. they have nothing better to do but go through other peoples' posts all day and make smart *** remarks to feel cool. Only if I could just advise you on the 1 easy way without having to go through 7 of them as most men can't count that high.. <br />
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1. Be naked and bent over the keg you just bought.<br />
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That should do it.<br />
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But what do I know.. I'm just a dog.<br />
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(Now I feel cool)

Though sex is not the whole of our lives, it is very important element in our marriage. I can understand cathy in some certain because I had the same feeling. I had a sexless, heart-broken marriage. But I tried hard, I wanted to know man better. Actually, I think it is a good idea to enter the group of '' i'm a sexless husband'' to know man better. But I 'm not brave enough to do that. I tried to change myself, go out to work, make friends, build my circle of life. now, the situation seems changed a lot. ''A woman with her own job and good personality is quite attractive'', my husband told me. And sometime, I also take him some surprises, a unexpect gift, and also sexy lingerie for special night. sexy lingerie becomes the spice of my life.

that's great

Cathy: I noticed bacon scented candles were not on your list. Tell her guys what a complete turn-on that is.

Wow, this story has really gotten too much attention. If there is a way to delete stories, I think this one should be removed. Here's why. First, it is most certainly an advertisement. I was kind of sure before, but after a bit more thought and research I became 100% certain. If we allow these posts to remain, they will only increase in number, just like spam email. This will only degrade the quality of the site, and since the owners of Experience Project need to make money also, this is competing with them, even if just a little bit.<br />
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Also, realize that this post is not here as an ad for us. This is how it works. Experience Project has built a reputation for good content, and there are links to this content from other sites. This cross-site linking is one of the ways that google uses to rank search results. The poster of this story is leveraging the fact that Experience Project ranks high in search results. Some random web surfer might be searching for how to improve their marriage. This post and the same text in other forums will pop up. The will go there, ignore the whole point of the site itself, read the post, and then possibly surf on to the lingerie site listed on the bottom.<br />
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In other words, this group is being used as a conduit for unsuspecting web surfers to pass through to a site in which will gladly take their money. I think this is sufficient reason to delete the post. I don't think it fits into the realm of censorship.

I just looked at Cathy2341's profile and I see she's also a member of the "I'm a HUSBAND in a sexless marriage" group. Whoa! Poor Cathy's got bigger problems than cheesy advertising copy, it seems! :-O LOL

As enna and someone earlier said, it's an ad. I just googled "sweety16" and they sell sex toys and lingerie. So, much as I adore reading the creative bashing of Clueless Cathy, I'm guessing this is a would-be entrepreneur who is putting '50s Good Housekeeping 'advice' on every internet site that has 'sex' in the title.<br />
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VectorKing23, I'm a woman and I love bacon! So start inventing those bacon boxers. And I'd like to be the first (of many, I'm sure) to volunteer as a taste-tester. : )<br />
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Even if Cathy isn't real, I must say I'm sincerely insulted that this marketer would recycle such obviously old-fashioned copy. Insult my intelligence as well as my hygiene, why don't you? Grrr.

I see you guys are feeding the trolls again (Cathy and Mr Shy), but carry on ... it's very entertaining.

Check out the comment on page 2 by onn520vx - it is an ad. See this line at the end of the post . . . . <br />
"As to sexy lingerie, sweety16 is a good choice. both of the quality and the price are good."<br />
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However, a little troll baiting is good sport - so keep it up!!! And as for MrShyFellow - he is NOT in a sexless marriage. He ois "bored" - hence his magnanimously attending our group to hand out "advice" with a lot of preachy overtones. . . . Please give him a good troll bashing too . . . I don't have the energy today!!

wow cathy will my wife start fancying me again if I adopt these seven tactics? Sadly I do all of these things anyway as a matter of course and I am met with sublime disinterest.<br />
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I have to mention also that even if my wife were to fail in each and every one of these departments I would still fancy her madly and want to f*** her senseless at every opportunity.<br />
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I do value your considered and helpful input but fear that I will have to look at other ideas to achieve my desired level of intimacy and sexual satisfaction.

Hmmm you forgot the bacon scented candles. believe me many of the women here have tried all of that only to hear. "Why in the hell did you spend all that money on that sexy stuff? I could have bought 2 video games with that". For people under normal living conditions I am sure that would be effective though. Problem in this forum though is so many are marred to spouses with NO libido. All the romantic stuff in the world can't cure that.

Let's just go Lady Gaga on this and make the boxers out of bacon. Of course, this poses the question:<br />
do women like bacon as much as men? Because I ain't eating bacon boxers if I could get…<br />
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…bacon bras, bacon panties, bacon stilettos.<br />
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(my sodium levels would be through the roof)

Actually, we are having a pig roast. i would really be interested in the BACON SCENTED candles. They just might make this silly pig smell better.<br />
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Clueless yes, innocent .... absolutely not. May as well rename the post '7 reasons why women are the cause of sexless marriages'<br />
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VK - what about bacon scented boxers?

I have no problem with this thread.<br />
It is just kind of sophomoric in nature. That's fine, as long as you see if for what it is.<br />
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What made this post for me? I envisioned Olivia Newton-John singing #7 to me and it made it all better. Not current day ONJ - I'm talking the 'What's it going to be boy' ONJ with the hot leather pants that made Travolta crumble at the carnival.

ALRIGHT ALREADY, I get it....LOL!!! If you guys noticed, I RESCINDED my original defense of the poor clueless girl. Just was having a little fun... Of course it's pop psychology that better belongs on the cover of "Cosmo" or something similar.<br />
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For some strange reason she seemed so innocent and clueless in the post that I felt sorry for her. But alas, the people have spoken: Off with her head! LOL

I think the best thing ever has been missed here…<br />
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the suggestion of wearing boxers… if anything sensual will happen… boxers will be the reason.<br />
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DAMN IT! The candles take a back seat now.

Honestly Cathy, I'm going to give you a golden opportunity here to try all that with my husband and then get back to me - let me know how it works for you ok?

It got to be a joke by a regular on ILIASM....<br />
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I hope

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Thank you so much for pointing out that showers are good. That body odor is bad. And that I might need to go to the gym a little more. But I got that covered. Now...can you help me screw in a lightbulb? Exactly how many sexless people does that take anyway?

The reason for the responses being so harsh or critical is because Cathy's comments were so nieve. It isn't as if all of the above weren't being done and are continuing to be done. <br />
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I don't know how else to explain it except to use an example of asking a blind person to comment on the painting in front of him. And Cathy would respond by saying maybe the blind guy would see the painting if you used a brighter color of paint<br />
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Yeah Mr Shy, she meant well. It is about as well meaning as someone that goes into a ward of burn victims and suggests that they just shouldn't have gotten burned. Suggesting that it is their fault they are now deformed forever, and all they need to do is apply a little cream and not play with fire and everything will be fine.<br />
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Well meaning posts do not provide help when you have no idea what you are talking about. And can be very destructive. So like the OP, why don't you educate yourself before posting.

First I am a guy, married for 20 years.<br />
I doubt anyone is going to read this but I cannot believe what back biting people are here.<br />
Someone tries to do something to benefit others and you laugh at the poor woman and try your best to ridicule her. What have you to offer up to anyone except "Dump Him" or other great advice such as that?<br />
I feel bad for Cathy because she meant well and I happen to agree with much of what she had to say. But of course there's more to each story. Bitterness may be one of them. But its a two way street and if you're having problems at home, its quite possibly a lack of communication or something you're both doing that is harming your relationship.<br />
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One thing I think could help some is have your men wear boxer shorts, and not briefs. I won't get into the specifics but trust me if there is any sexual interests, it will come out wearing them.

I do all that already, doesn't phase the guy, but it does interest others.<br />
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Wait a minute…<br />
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…you mean women actually wear a man's favorite perfume?<br />
…and wear sexy lingerie without being asked, forced, tricked, or paid?<br />
…and cook their man his favorite meal? Even if it is Spam and eggs?<br />
…AND plan a romantic night out? With expectations of a booty call as the frosting on that cake?<br />
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I quit writing fiction years ago, but I could keep reading it.<br />
Go on…

If only the OP were right, I'd have the hottest marriage around. If only it were that easy.

Bluewood - I assume you are a man... The creature is assuming we are a bunch of smelly old frumps, I mean she starts with hygiene for Christ's sake... , that have not bothered to take care of ourselves, wear makeup, dress up.... <br />
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This is beyond an insult... a long way beyond an insult. The women here have done everything imaginable to beautify ourselves... to find ourselves crying alone.... smelling of his favorite perfume, wearing sexy lingerie, after cooking him a wonderful meal, or a romantic night out...<br />
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I'm not thanking you, Cathy... when you come prancing in here on your high heels, tossing your shiny hair over your shoulder, and giving the classic Barbie trilling laugh... <br />
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get lost, fool...

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Wow!! I am a male and offended by this posting although it served two purposes for me. One: a decent chuckle. Two: I finally agree with VB on something. Makes me wanna buy a lottery ticket.

I google the topic for this post and found the exact same text on other web sites. It didn't feel like it came from someone who was typing this in for our sake. I'm pretty sure that this is actually an advertisement for the lingerie listed at the bottom of the story. I've seen this technique on how to "get rich" online written elsewhere.<br />
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What you do is write some "copy" I think they call it. You make a professional looking website, but it is all really just bunk. You get on some affiliate program and then, to get people to your website and to click-through (you get paid x amount for click-throughs, and y ammount for conversions), you post some of your copy on various online forums. Ones that seem appropirate.<br />
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I suspect that this person isn't reading our comments and has already moved on.

I'd say the advice is hilariously simple-minded, so much so that there is no reason for offense. In fact the simplicity made me laugh, and I needed a laugh. <br />
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It seems that maybe Cathy stumbled into the wrong experience .. this is not the "I can't attract a man" site. Would be great for those with "wisdom" to take a few minutes and get a read on the community of ILIASM. But hey some people are too eager to share their wise ways, I guess, or maybe they are just too .. ___________ fill in the blank.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!<br />
It was so simple, and stupid me, I just never got it!!!!!<br />
Really people, why did no one ever point out that I needed to take a shower????? 13 years and I never figured that out. <br />
And the lipstick and eye-liner and sexy clothes. <br />
Thank you so much Cathy. <br />
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May I show you this beautiful bridge off which you can take a flying leap!

yeah OK maybe you guys are right...LOL. I just have a soft spot for anyone who understands the true sex crazed nature of men. She had me at, no nagging allowed, body maintenance, and "Men are like animals" LOL.<br />
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My apologies, slam away.....

BlueWood must have thought better of his comment but I'm leaving my response. <br />
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PM<br />
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Nope, we crossed in his edit. <br />
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FYI: I don't "crucify" the poster you speak of because I no longer will grace her posts with any reply and because it's cruel to rip apart the mentally and emotionally handicapped.

I've read much more ridiculous posts (like ones that declare indirectly that sex is not that important or needed in a marriage) that bait less ridicule.<br />
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Maybe we should just crucify her.<br />
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This is an open forum. Thank you for sharing Cathy.

BlueWood,<br />
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In defense of myself, and by extension "the ladies", do you not think we all did exactly these things when things first turned upside down on us?<br />
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This "Ladies Home Journal" advice can be found each and every month on the newsstands (or Walmart). We come here after we've been through all that ad infinitum before we show up here, one of the most humiliating places a woman could find herself. <br />
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While I don't find this story offensive in the same way I find others, like the one you mentioned or the other one I mentioned), it does bespeak a certain smugness on the OP's part. Clearly she has not taken the time to even consider the depth of the issue. She assumes this is a lightweight problem -- this story makes light of my decade of pain all because the OP has mo concept of what a sexless marriage is all about. <br />
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Princess SexGoddesInAFormerLife

I am figuring this has to be a gigantic **** take,<br />
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Now it's true we see a level of imbecility in the odd one time visitor to ILIASM, but this one appears to have quantum leaped over to cretinism.<br />
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Tread your own path.

I'm so confused with all the good advice on how I could have saved my marriage!!! If only I had thought to **** 100 different men while my husband watched as suggested in one story or remembered my lipstick and heels as suggested in this one!<br />
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That decade of sleepless nights and tears could have all been saved if I had just remembered that fabulous black corset in my dresser... How could I have missed all this?!?<br />
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Princess DumbAsABrick

Wow Cathy, thank you so much for your valuable advice!! Now why didn't I think of showering and putting on lipgloss...boy don't I feel silly...by tomorrow night my husband won't be able to take his hands off me. To think it was all so simple...<br />
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Stepford wife! Quite possibly...

Troll, go find another bridge to hang out under.<br />
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Geez, what a clueless *****. Of course I am referring to the original poster here.

Alright, you guys were really nice in responding to the dribble of this innane post.<br />
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Very classy of all of you.<br />
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I'm not classy, so i am going to tell this clueless stepford wife to stick here advice where the flowers don't bloom. Not in the mood for the bs today. Or, any day.

Cathy, I'm very tempted to laugh uncontrollably at your story. . . but, like Kona, I figure you mean well so I'll limit my laughter to a gentle chuckle. . . . . <br />
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Young lady, did it occur to you that maybe (just maybe!) most of us could actually figure out some of your "good advice" by ourselves? And did it cross your mind that, if it was as simple as following your suggestions, we might not have in excess of 12,000 members on this site?<br />
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I am surprised you made no mention of sexy lingerie, scented candles and date nights - but maybe these are items 8, 9 and 10 . . . to be posted in your next story??<br />
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May I suggest you read as many stories as possible on this forum? Check out the forum posts too. Learn about sexless marriage - if indeed you either need to or want to. . . . And please, if you are NOT in a Sexless Marriage, go and play elsewhere. It is very patronising and totally unhelpful to "advise" people here if you have no idea what you are talking about!!

LOL! This sounds like something from a 1950s ladies magazine.<br />
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Giving you the benefit of the doubt, I'll assume you posted this with good intentions.<br />
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But the people on this forum are here because the obvious attempts to appeal to our spouses have not worked.