7 Years of Living Like a Monk
I started reading these stories for the first time today. I feel good that I'm not alone with this problem, and bad that so many of us have to deal with it.
My 20 year wedding anniversary (Oct '08) may not happen. There has been no romance in our marriage for seven (7) years and I think I'm about done. We are fantastic housemates, business partners, and good friends---but that's where it ends. Her high-profile job totally consumes her----alcohol doesn't help-----and we've grown apart on a lot of levels. I exercise, she doesn't. I don't need wine every night, she does. I've maintained my weight, she's not too concerned anymore about appearance. I brought up marriage counseling once and she thought it was ridiculous. "Our marriage is great" is what she expresses to others.
Do you see the problem here??
By total coincidence I reconnected via the internet with someone I knew over 20 years ago. I have never, ever considered an affair, but I am honestly feeling like that's the direction I'm now heading. My mom had an affair while married to my dad, and it devastated him. I am concerned about similar consequences with my wife, but frankly I feel trapped in this situation without a nice easy remedy. :(