Feeling Like A Unwanted PersonIve been married to my husband for almost six years. This is my first mariage, it is this fifth. I know that should have sent major red flags, but hey I was and still am stupid. Yes, every wife except me has cheated on me.
here is my story, I was terrified of sex when we got together, he totally changed my mind and finally made me comfortable with myself sexually. He was so patient and caring and completely devoted to me sexually. Then I married him, and it was like a switch went off in his brain, he was no longer interested in my sexually, and just to lecture me about responsibility. We had responsibilitites and we were grown adults and we needed to act like it.
I spent the first year dieting myself down to the smallest Ive been since I was 25. I thought it was the way that I looked, I cried, begged and prayed for things to change, I only response I ever got is that he works longer hours than I do, and he gets up sooner in the morning than I do. I spent the first 2 years trying to change me, hoping that if I was a prettier person, better mother, better wife, better housekeeper, was more responsibile, tried to act like he thought a woman my age should act, he would be interested in me.
Im sorry to say that none of that worked, so I threatened him, told him to go to a doctor, to please get help, It took a year from the time that I threatened him for him to actually have a testerone test. Well, big suprise he has a testerone problem, the doctor gave him a presc
I tired to suggest that he not give up, that there were other treatments available, he will not hear of it. He believes that he has done everything that he should be doing. So to make a long story short I got every angry and told him how selfish he was, and that I had never believed he was a selfish lover and that if I had known sex was all about him, I probably wouldn't have married him in the first place. I was actually cruel enought to tell him that even paralyized men care more about their wifes sexual needs than he does mine, and I was tired of being in a sex-less marriage.
He honestly believes that now I have expressed how I feel, everything is fine. He has completely dismissed the issue and believes that everything is fine now that his wife got it off her chest.
If someone has any idea how to save this gigantic mess, please let me now.