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Failure To Realize......

I think its our own failure to realize that something is wrong. It starts out slowly so you almost dont notice. Then before you know it its been months since you have had sex with your spouse. Whats next, years???? I will NOT go years. It makes me hate him and treat him like **** now just because I cant get over it. The talks are a joke. I bring it up and he gets mad. I have not brought it up in a long time because I gave up. I am soooooo moving on. He will regret the things he has done but I wont.
greeneyednurse greeneyednurse 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 31, 2010

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Congratulations.<br />
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Personally, I think it is a good idea (once the anger and bitterness have largely abated) to have a "de-briefing" or "autopsy" of the relationship.<br />
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It will likely help in and of itself, and also be of great value in any new relationship at some future point.<br />
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Tread your own path.

Perfect. <br />
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Problem evaluated. Solution recognized. Plan in place and underway.<br />
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Focus on you and your direction. Don't let his existence distract your energy. Congratulations. <br />
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2011 is all about the new life ahead.

Thats what I keep telling myself. I am too young to deal with this crap. I cant wait to move on and see whats in store for me.

Are are very smart to see the pattern and recognize that the only person you can change is you. And yes to your question of "Whats next, years???" You are young, and with a future career as a nurse you will have opportunities to start anew.

Oh trust me I am. I graduate nursing next december and I am out of here. He knows too and wont change anything so that told me all I needed to know.

Hello my friend, I have to warn you that if you don't take action now you will regret it. Mine started out slowly and before I knew it it was ten years. The problem is it was easier to take care of my self than to bother with an unresponsive woman. I also filled my life with other things and now, I'm taking steps to get a divorce, we both agreed to it. So I can't wait for it to be over. I have met so many nice woman who want the same things in life so I hope I can say good bye to this sexless marriage soon. NY in Feb. becomes a no fault state. Should be easy to divorce. <br />
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PLease consider your options now. don't wait until he turns you into a bitter wife. I know that isn't what you want. You just want to be loved.