Vasectomy And Loss Of Sex Drive.

Due to the sexless nature of our marriage and the Talk in October etc, etc H has finally done something about his lack of desire and seen the doctor. 

Very interesting it was too!

Firstly - his testosterone is actually higher than average and he should be very, very keen to have sex and lots of it (so something wrong there).  Doctor suggested his lack of desire was probably psychological.

Secondly - the doctor didn't know why he had been referred as everything is in working order - then he asked him whether he had had a vasectomy and who had suggested it?  Often it is the wife....... quite what we are to read into that I am not sure.  Except that if it's not the man's idea he maybe reluctant but not wanting to argue?.....  and yes, I had suggested it - because  I had recently had an extremely difficult birth with our second child, we knew we didn't want another, and I didn't want to remain on the pill ad infintum so why not him?  It's an easier op for men than having your tubes tied as a woman.   Or that is what we had been told.

After the vasectomy H was in quite a lot of pain for a few weeks.

The Doctor then said that  many men after a vasectomy lose their sex drive.  This is mainly psychological! 

We were never informed of this - if I had known I for one would never have asked. 

I would like to say that H is being to retrieve his sex drive, still not quite there, but there is improvement. 

Has anyone else known of this side effect of having a vasectomy?    A loss of sex drive? 


Sex drive is slowly returning - but he has mentioned also that there was a significant loss of sensation when ej####lating - has anyone else had this problem too?
wisiwig wisiwig
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53 Responses Jan 15, 2011

Let me tell you my story. After our third child was born, the last really good year of my life, my company was muscled out of a contract I had worked for 14 years. My company was also investigated, smeared during this time and I was terrified my boss was dong something hinky and was going to get us arrested. So I had to change jobs and retool my skills and relearn a lot. Very stressful. My mom also died in front of me. This was in a period of about 4 months. My third child had been born 5 months before this all started. I was stressed and very needy while all this was happening. At one point during this my wife came home from work in a bad mood and told me she was going to stop breast feeding and didn't want to take the pill and "what are you going to do about it!". She has a temper and she was raging at me. She told me I had better get used to no sex or sex with my self or using a condom. She said "I do everything!". She was screaming and really having one of her famous fits of rage that I was warned about but had come to accept in her. She's a great person and her temper is really her only flaw. She reiterated that she did everything and "what are you going to do about it!". I was like "what can I do... I don't know about vasectomy.." She was like "FINE! I have to do everything. I might as well schedule an appointment to get my tubes tied!" I was like, "I guess I can look into vasectomy but I'm not sure about letting someone cut me down there." I had always felt this way, even before I had met her. Just seemed like a bad idea. She was like "Oh no, GOD FORBID YOU DO IT AND ANY LITTLE THING HAPPEN! I'D NEVER HEAR THE END OF IT!!". Prophetic words. So a few months later one of the guys I worked with who was cheating on his wife and three young sons with the office **** by chance mentioned that we had the same urologist he had done his vasectomy. I think I asked him how it was and he said fine. After a year of changing jobs, and nearly having a breakdown over fear of possible illegal activity of my boss and losing my mom I felt like I needed to do something for my wife's because I had been so needy. She was already impatient that it had been "all about me" for the last year. So to prove I could step up and take care of something for her I convinced myself vasectomy would be fine and I booked a consult. I asked the Dr. about pain. That was my only question and the guy, a convicted insider trader I later found out (had to pay 300K to SEC) told me 1 in 1000 chance but he had never seen anyone have problems. So less than 10 months after a job change, a little over a year after my last child was born, and a few months after losing my mom I let this guy have at my spermatic cords with a hot needle. I was not that concerned and there was really not much pain at all. I remember a sensation of tugging and something clamped onto my left cord being dropped and hanging/pulling. I even had a funny story about being locked out of my house when I got home from surgery and having to crawl into my shed and lay on a lounge chair pants down around my ankles with snow packed inside a plastic CVS bag on my sack. I was lucky it was snowing. I made due. No complaints no crying or regrets or bad behavior...that is until I started having problems sitting at work. Then I started having problems sleeping through the night because of the horrific burning pain alongside my scrotum when I got erections during sleep at night. The new company I had just joined was forced out of business by a big corporation like my last a few months after my vasectomy so I had to search yet again for another job. So I'm in a new job, having problems sitting and sleeping. I started taking ambien and motrin in the middle of the night because the pain was so bad I would wake with my heart pounding. It was torturous. I still didn't link it to the vasectomy. I thought I was having prostate problems. So over the course of three years the pain sleep deprivation and stress just broke me down. At year three the back of my left testicle blew up like a balloon and was incredibly painful, like being kicked in the balls. I went to urologists and they gave me an ultrasound and said I had epididymitis and that if the doppler had showed no blood flow they would have harvested my testicle. Nice. So finally a lightbulb went off and I began thinking - Vasectomy. My epididymus, the thing that makes ***** blew up like a balloon Now why would this happen. Hmmmm, maybe because the normal drainage path was burned out of me. Vasectomy. So when this happened we were getting ready to go on christmas vacation and the pain had already ruined a couple of vacations. I called my wife and told her I had epididymitis and I thought it might be from the vasectomy and "Here we are getting ready to go away on vacation AND MY BALLS ARE ****** UP AGAIN!!!!!" That's the first time I remember ever yelling at my wife about the problems I had been having. She was driving in a parking lot and was so upset she hit the car next to her when she went to park. So over the next two years the pain was increasing pain to the point where I had to quit my full time job and was basically an invalid. I was scared to sleep because that's when the pain was the worst. My mental health dropped off a cliff. Our marriage too dropped off that cliff. We were happy healthy, had sex at least twice a week before the vasectomy but the frequency was now down to a couple times a month. My wife had to pick up all the slack around the house. I could not go on long care trips, sit through one of my kids plays, sit through a movie. I would like in bed exhausted and in so much pain in the morning I would get up at around 10. It was hellish. I finally got a reversal at year 5 as a hail mary. Up until then for a couple of years, once a year I would get drunk (as a result of our normal social activities, we party a lot with our friends) and instead of going home happy and silly I would black out and have a screaming fit at my wife over how she bullied me into getting a vasectomy. How we didn't' have a discussion, we had her screaming at me and berating me and threatening me. The reversal was painful. It's a much more invasive operation unlike vasectomy but after a month or so, after the hematoma on the right side subsided I woke one morning expecting to be in pain and magically there was none. I was crying with relief. My ***** counts went up to pre-vasectomy levels and I was starting to think I would be okay. I started trying to rebuild my life. Went back to work full time immediately. My wife was still being kind of a stickler about condoms and I told her no way, I took care of birth control for 5 years wanted to kill myself with pain from the vasectomy for the last 2 and it was her turn. There was a lot of resentment and I actually felt guilty for not wanting to wear one.. The vasectomy really ****** everything up royally. So unfortunately I had a lot of the pain suddenly came back at 10 1/2 months. It's a burning pain and after a huge spike it went up and down for a while and my ***** counts started dropping a bit. It's been almost 3 years since the reversal and 8 since the vasectomy and my life and my marriage are severely ****** up. I've been working full time again but I have a hard time sitting and have to get up about 8 times a day. It's a horrible life. My sex drive is crap now too. I'm so angry.We had a good marriage. I loved my wife and still do but we have blown a hole in our lives. I know exactly what I'm missing out on every day. I see a parallel life with us just riding it out until menopause and being able to have sex take trips be intimate enjoy life and each other and our kids. I'm an emotional and physical cripple now.. I cant' drink anymore because I just get angry. I am in pain daily in my groin. I have been on so many course of antibiotics and anti-inflamatories over the last 8 years I have severe problems with my gut. I have low energy and sex drive and am in near constant pain. I struggle to make it through the work week and barely recover over the weekend. I used to be happy, and had a lot of hobbies and interests and was friendly and outgoing and loved my job. Loved having parties and going to parties, throwing a few down on the weekends. Now because of daily pain and no end in sight I'm a worthless wreck. I'm not a man any woman would want to be married to. I can barely hold down a job and am ready to retire and probably would if I wasn't sure I'd go insane if I was not working.. I kind of hate myself. It's all because my groin burns and aches where I was cut and burned 8 years ago. Don't get a vasectomy. Don't risk it. Wear condoms, use NFP, hand jobs, blow jobs anal, take turns with birth control. Do whatever you can but no woman or man should get surgically sterilized. It's just wrong and inviting trouble. Why risk losing something beautiful with your wife and ruin your life and risk you kids well being. Ladies. DO NOT PRESSURE YOUR HUSBAND TO GET A VASECTOMY. It's a recipe for disaster.

Hi all
Don't have a vasectomy, it's as simple as that. It stands to reason that you are blocking the flow of ***** into the vas deferens. That chamber I think is the trigger point that once full, triggers the sometimes unwanted arousal. I think in highly productive men this happens more frequently.This I also think drives our sexual focus, ie what gets us going and hightens our desire even more. For most men that's women's body parts and loads of other stuff. That's the animal part of the whole glorious business.
Then we have the second point I'd like to make, the vas deferens is fully of nerves, it's a fine tube and it hurts like hell when the doctor pinches and cauterises the ends, that's a burning process, for those who don't know. Those nerves travel to the brain as all nerves do. I'm guessing, but I believe in the other direction they travel to the tip of the penis.
I had my vasectomy 20 years ago now and I can say at thirty two my sex drive vanished over night, I was a horny devil and didn't want my sexy wife having a fifth child. After my snip it took ages to get my clears, then counselling for 10 weeks, taking about a load of crap about my dad and me. Then she tells me she sees loads of men with the same problem. "WELL HELLO" maybe it's the snip.
Anyway I though there could be benefits to not being so horny, but two years ago my wife finally walked. She was convinced that I it was because I didn't fancy her, she was wrong.
I have never felt that I'm not getting enough and ten years ago I went a whole year without a blast. But having a blast and sex drive are not the same. Prior to my snip I would have two a day on my own and when my wife was up for it I'd have a good time.
I have a new and very attractive girlfriend now, we have sensual lovemaking, she's not a sex mad nypho. I'm sure she can take it or leave it. I on the other hand would like ta bit of the old me back.

My case is different. My husband and i knew we didn't want any more kids. He has 2 of his own and so do I. So we have 4 in total. Im currently on the iud, and can't complain i have no problem with it. But my husband insisted he had the vasectomy done just because we've had close calls and we both know we were not thinking of adding more kids to the bunch we love everything as it is. He got the vasectomy 3 weeks ago. He was in pain for a couple of days and by the 5th day after the vasectomy we had sex. We were very careful because he was a little sore still but he said he felt no difference. Now we have sex 3 to 4 times a week. Usually before the vasectomy it was once or twice a week. His sex drive is higher and has no sensation of in satisfaction after ***********. He says the only difference is that he holds a longer erection after *********** but still feel satisfied.

Well my husband had a vasectomy after my hematologist suggested it. I had been on the birth control pill for 8 years and I am a non-smoker! Well that birth control pill almost killed me by giving me blood clots better known as pulmonary embolisms in both my lungs. I would have died from it had I not started spitting up blood and went to the doctor. Because of this I cannot be on any kind of birth control ever again. And after the loss of our youngest daughter to cancer, my husband and I are positive we don't want anymore kids. So 3 months after the vasectomy he is not having a problem with his sexual drive, but he is having a problem staying hard. Then he gets frustrated and that doesn't help either. I'm not complaining at all, I love him and am grateful that he did this, but I do feel that due to our ****** luck, he was forced to. I'm just going to continue making him comfortable and not try put any pressure on him. Hopefully in time he'll feel ok again.

Oh, no! Is this what's in store for me?! I go under the knife on the 17th!! Of course my wife, would surely appreciate less of a sex drive from me... yikes!

How is your husband getting on now??

I'm a 30 year old male that had a vasectomy in january 2014 (10 months ago)

I've been having ED (erectile dysfunction) for the last 1-2 months. Sometimes I'm able to attain a weak erection, my penis is noticeably softer than it was before all of the issues I'm having. After ****** my penis looses girth almost immediately. Furthermore I'm UN able to continue with intercourse even with a rest of 30 or so mins, I have always been able to engage multiple episodes of intercourse with my wife without any issues previous to the vasectomy. Sometimes I'm not able to re-engage in sex even after hours of rest between previous intercourse, my penis will just not become erect. I have always been very sexually active without any issues what so ever. This issue us really causing me to feel low and my wife is concerned for me, which is impacting on her ability to be comfortable during intercourse. I'm considering a vasectomy reversal due to this. My doctor has arranged the usual blood tests, i.e to measure testosterone levels etc. I'm yet to receive the results. I can only maintain an erection through intense physical stimulation. I previously only needed to be visually stimulated, this is very frustrating for me. Furthermore if I do manage to gain an erection im only able to maintain it during vaginal penetration whilst im on top of my wife with my wifes legs are pushed up and back, as this gives me more sensation in my penis, and during oral sex.. i struggle to maintain an erection when my wife is on top or if we do it whilst i'm behind her.

Is there a way back from this mess without the use of drugs ??

Last saturday I failed to have an erection, even through intense visual and physical stimulation. I had consumed alcohol and did feel tipsy, I have always found alcohol enhanced my erections and sexual desire. This was very shocking for me. Due to this I reluctantly took 50mg of a viagra type pill that was prescribed by my doctor. It took nearly 2 hours for it to work, I was able to have an erection after the pull kicked in, however it was still not as good as I could previously attain prior to the vasectomy. I don't want to take drugs to combat this issue, I'm becoming very depressed due to this.

im wondering if this issue resolved by having a vasectomy reversed??

I'm considering having it reversed to hopefully fix my erection issues. Furthermore I feel as if my testicles have atrophied (shrunk) somewhat since the vasectomy. I really hope there is nothing serious like scar tissue or worse nerve damage!

In my mind I'm concerned scar tissue might be part to blame, I have developed two lumps on either side of my scrotum, (might be the vas deverens?) If scar tissue is the reason, I wonder why it would take 7months for my erection issues to come to light, and why would it have not caused issues before now? I've been informed that blood vessel damage can cause erection problems also, i wonder if this could be fixed through surgery if it's the case?

I'm sorry for the long winded message, I'm just so concerned, and frankly desperate at the moment.

Did you mange to sort this out? My husband still cannot maintain an erection for long, but at least the pain and discomfort has gone.

Have not had sex in over a year and before that it was like 2-3 years, so technically I have gotten laid once in about 3-4 years.....the wife thinks if I get snipped then she would be more open to having sex. At this point once a quartet would be a huge milestone in or relationship. Not sure what to do....... I thought marriage after kind still included sex!

Do not have a vasectomy, it won't solve the lack of sex issue - which is a whole different ball game - pun intended!

That's funny, you'd rather have your guy in pain, and losing his desires (of course, you did your own full, independent research on this operation before you went ahead and suggested it), than pop a pill once a day until you stopped flowing once a month? Very nice.

My boyfriend (3 children) and I are experiencing the same problem with his lack of sex drive...His vasectomy was done before we met.....I had my tubes tied after giving birth to child number 5. And although his lack of sex drive is frustrating I would much rather have had my ex get a vasectomy because the pain experienced from this was far less then that of delivering his children and since having my tubes tied 85 days out of my year are excruciatingly painful and I will be having a hysterectomy at age 30 and I'm sure the recovery time from that is not a few days. So to suggest that a woman would push her husband into a vasectomy because she didn't want to take a pill everyday is a very ******* thing to say maybe you should consider researching a tubal ligation hysterectomy and the side effects of the pill patch shot and IUD while your at it throw in child birth I realize that a man's only part in the creation part is for the most point enjoyable so maybe you don't really know what your talking about. A psychological dilemma and 3 days of pain seems like the best birth control method !!!!

What a totally bizarre post. At 30 you supposedly have already had 5 kids. Possible, sure, but somewhat unusual these days. Getting your tubes tied does not create "excruciating pain" in any case: nowadays the procedure, with optical nanosurgery, is even simpler and not more invasive than vasectomy. If you have "excruciating pain" so often obviously the roots have to be found somewhere else. Having a hysterectomy at your age is absurd unless you suffer from cancer, in which case we're talking something else altogether. Any surgeon who takes off the womb of a 30-year old female will not do it except in very extreme and urgent cases. Which does in no way justify the cutting of a man's tubes with the risk of ending his enjoyment of sex altogether due to the numerous problems we hear connected with poorly performed operations. Male enjoyment of sex being of course the basis for the couple's enjoyment of sex altogether. With 8 kids, of course, your enjoyment must be limited these days, but it has nothing with tubes or testicles...

I'm beginning to think your a total idiot. My children were born 3/2004 while on the pill.. twins 8/2005.... 1/2007 while wearing the patch and 1/2008 with the shot. I'm not sure how 8 children would decrease the enjoyment of's still sex!!! And we have a combined 6 children one of my twins didn't survive child birth and my daughter passed away at 4 months SIDS.

The pain I experience during menstruation is unbearable and started after my tubal. I also suffer from depression all caused by the hormone changes caused by the tubal. Because of these changes my uterus doesn't work like it's supposed to causing extreme cramping, 6-10 days of bleeding that has made me anemic, and extreme PMS mood swings that the Dr is trying to control with birth control. It's fantastic really!!! I delivered my children with no pain medications at all and I would rather do that once a month then this!!! I will be having a hysterectomy for these reasons. And as far as your cancer comments basically the only use for a uterus after a tubal is a splendid breeding ground for cancer!!! I am by no means trying to say that the side effects for a man aren't a big deal what I am saying is that if nothing else works it is a much faster recovery with fewer side effects for the man.

You should seriously do some research. Birth control of every type has side effects and any person or couple considering one should read up and know "worst case scenario" what you can expect.

Ma'am, I relate to you totally but I think you have blinders on. I would think someone horrendously injured, possibly permanently, by an unnecessary surgical procedure would have the same view of vasectomy. I have been in horrible pain every day for 6 years because of my vasectomy. It's destroying my marriage and my enthusiasm for life. My life really. I think surgical sterilization is wrong. You mess with nature's design at your own peril. I'm sorry you are suffering. Couple's should take turns with birth control, the pill, condoms whatever... every two years etc.. nature will make you infertile eventually. Why would you let someone cut out part of a healthy reproductive system risking lifelong chronic pain and loss of sex as part of life when there are alternatives.

You don't know what you are talking about. I've been in pain for 8 years since my vasectomy. I'm in pain as I type this. It's not safe or even safer. Go on the NHS website. That's the National Health Services in the UK. The stat is 1 in 10 men end up in chronic pain after vasectomy. I'm sorry you are hurting. Men are not obligated to get a vasectomy because they don't have wombs and can't share the burden of child birth so don't hate on them for that. You have pain 85 days out of the year. God I wish I had that. I don't think anyone should get surgically sterilized. Alternating between the pill and condoms if possible until nature takes care of it seems safe to me. Don't talk about things you don't know about though. Chronic pain after vasectomy has ruined my life, my wifes life, our marriage. Just don't go there.

But we didn't know this when we made this choice..............would we have made the same choice if we had known - I doubt it.

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Mine definitely dropped. I was a once a day guy. Afterward it's like once or twice a week,and that's work. If I had known I would never have done it. Those that say it's physiological are psychological. There is a significant drop in ****** and in volume. And, since I didn't know what these people were saying beforehand, I found out AFTER I did it. They are plain full of it.

I am a farm boy from down south, I am so sorry that our men are not truly inform about the like of sensual desire after a vasectomy. On the farm, after the removal of the bull and hog nuts, you have cut the nerve that stimulate any sexual desire. After this is done, the animals are no longer sexually active and all they want to do is EAT. This increased the weight of the animal which we sold to market later in the fall. If we just think., when we spade or nutter our pets, WE ARE STOPPING THEIR SEXUAL DESIRE. If you just notice them, they do not hump, spray their territory, or are not really interested in smelling other dogs or cats.
Our dr's say that the man is mentally not interested, that is true, because the cutting of the tube cuts the DESIRE. In men, sexual pill will make you erect , much like a man is erect at night, but there is no sexual desire. When a man is erect at night or mainly in the morning, the erection is not for sex. The erection is the body cleaning the veins in the penis. There is no sexual desire at that time. Men gets many erections during the sleep process. If a man was to take a afternoon nap, when he goes into a deep sleep, you will notice that you might wake early and notice you have a semi hard-on. That's because the body was getting ready to go into full clean mode.
Most men, after a vasectomy will not say that they don't have the desire for sex. IT MAKE HIM FEEL LESS THAN THE MONCHO MAN WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE. and he don't want his partner to think he is not interested in sex anymore. He knows and she knows the animal he was before he was snipped.
I am not a woman, but having the tubes tied is also cutting the sexual desire for sex. The same as a cat. If you notice a fixed female cat and a male tom cat, she will let him know right away that the sex shop is closed.
Many men with vasectomies will say there lady are always begging for sex, and they are because, because in nature, like on the farm, when the female comes in heat, her EGG is ready for fertilization. PEOPLE ARE THE SAME. The only thing I can advise a man or a woman to do is, touch,caress,and hold one another.
Having a reversal vasectomy will not re-connect the desire. I am so sorry, but the desire has been cut forever.
I have a handsome male friend that had a vasectomy, he is dating a beautiful flight attendant, she know he had the vasectomy but don't know why he isn't sexually aroused by her. He looks at me and say I DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG WITH ME. His dr gave him Viagra. He said it really makes him hard, but he would rather eat a steak than have sex. HE REALLY DONT KNOW THAT THE VASECTOMY HAS CUT THE - DESIRE. I will tell him what's going on with him soon.

Vasectomy is a form of castration, no doubt about it. In older times or for animals they removed the nuts or even the full bag - in modern times they only snip the tubes but the effect is the same. No kids, and gradually no desire. Plus the fact sex and particularly *********** are often unpleasant or painful for vasectomized males.

I had my tubes tied, and did not have any loss of sexual desire or the ability to climax and otherwise enjoy sex, so what Mlogan wrote here is not true: "I am not a woman, but having the tubes tied is also cutting the sexual desire for sex. "

In addition, when animals are castrated, their testicles are removed. That's very different than when doctors cut men's tubes that allow ***** to be **********. Men retain their testicles.

I've known men who have had vasectomies and who said it was no big deal and the operation didn't affect their sex drives or performance.

I guess it's different for different people.

I was impressed by 87William3 - who after hernia and prostate problems, was willing to have testosterone therapy, the pump, and possibly an implant so that he could have sex with his wife. It's hard for me to imagine a man doing all that.

Oh lord - keep us updated. I'll go for RISUG or whatever the yank equivalent is, but never a vasectomy. I've heard too many horror stories...

I am going threw the same thing with my husband. He is 29 and before his surgery 3 months ago he could not keep his hands off me. he would touch me and get a erection. Now nothing. he says he has no sex drive and his ******* are not the same and he (parden my french) has no more mornig wood. he is very upset about it. so you are not alone.

Having you tubes tied changes little for a woman. With optical laser surgery it is extremely easy to perform, is pretty much painless and does not affect the sex organs, just the reproductive system. So the old argument that it is so much easier to vasectomize a male than sterilize a female is rather worthless nowadays. Vasectomy directly affects some nerves and tubes linked to sex, and the feeling of having been neutered is very high in some males' minds (although others don't mind at all) - which it actually is. I would strongly suggest to married women to have their tubes tied by optical surgery after the birth they consider their last - it can be performed while they're in the hospital - rather than have a surgeon trim tubes in their husbands' balls. I've heard too many stories, firsthand, of men losing all interest in sex after the vasectomy, when sex wasn't downright painful. And doctors won,t be much help, saying it is simply psychological - but it isn't.

Hi firstly im sorry to hear another man has fell victim to this horrible procedure. Like your husband i had a vasectomy in january 2013 (10 months ago) I was fine up until the past 1-2 months, had no issues at all.I have full desire for sex still, however I now struggle to gain and maintain an erection at times, sometimes i cannot gain an erection at all. I have reduced sensation, i need to be physically stimulated in order to maintain an erection, even then it mostly weak erections. I need to concentrate and work very had to maintain my erections during intercourse. Im considering a vasectomy reversal. Have you and your partner discussed a reversal to correct his issues?
are you aware of any successful stories of vasectomy reversals fixing erectile dysfunction issues?? Take care.. liam

sorry meant January 2014

I have been told by multiple men to never get a vasectomy because it seriously ***** everything up.

It doesn't for most, but it does for some. Basically, it's playing Russian roulette with your balls and submitting to a dominant woman who doesn't want to get pregnant again and is afraid of being snipped herself.

If anyone I'm sleeping with ever mentions that possibility to me in the future I will kick their *** straight into the street. There are many women and I can always find another, but I only have one package.

i agree it's roulette and if the man has it done because his wife makes him then that leaves him more susceptible to psychological problems. That said some men want it done. My wife offered to get her tubes done but I said no, she's carried 3 of my kids and I was man enough to step up. My choice. My **** works fine and I still *** fine. I think my drive is a little lower but also I have had a stressful year and with 3 kids running around it hardly gets you in the mood. That said I can still manage a few times in a day if given the chance lol

That's what they say, but I've not met anyone who didn't have issues down the road from it...

I can't speak for anyone else I can only give my experience. I do think if the doc ***** up and gets a nerve or blood supply it would cause serious problems which probably happens sometimes, so always best to see an experienced doc. I also firmly believe if anyone thinking about it has any doubts what so ever then obviously don't do it. It is a one way street and guys should be reminded of that fact before getting it done. Docs should also make sure a guy is psychologically ok with firing blanks cos let's face it a lot of our male ego can be connected to it lol.

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You are right, foreskin. Are you doctor? Are you Jew? Have you had sex with foreskin? I don't think so. You got it as an infant most likely.

All info is in the internet. There is a book about vasectomy: look it up: dontfixit. It may give you some understanding about vasectomy. Or look it up: neonatal circumcision.

There is nothing philological about vasectomy. You are cutting essential tubs.

Guys, do you homework before any decision. I had my own surgery many years go, not related to V or Circ. And i am endless regret just for one reason: I did not investigate about side effects. I was suffering about 4 years, still have some side effects and I do understand how life miserable could be.

Dont fix it!!!!


You're completely bonkers


The similarity between circumcision and vasectomy is that doctors are making big money putting innocent infants (circumcision) and man (vasectomy) under tremendous risk absolutely without any reason. V is the worst thing that could be done to man in compare with any other surgeries: It changes hormonal level forcing testicles stop producing this hormone, it reducing sensation up to 90% (this number can vary), it brings inflammation of the body and many other side effects which could be discovered later. Changing hormonal level could lead to anxiety and depression. The other thing is Post-vasectomy pain syndrome. Please read about it.

Regarding circumcision: Man are losing their sensitivity and nobody who had it done as an infant even don't know what it feels like with forehead. Nobody in the world except M uslims, J ews, A mericans and C anadians do that procedure.
That is a biggest fraud done by US to the is citizen, violating human rights.

Guys, don't do vasectomy. You will be endless regret it. There is no warranty you will be in the range of man she have never been affected by vasectomy.

I wish everybody good health and happiness. Don't do it!!! Don't!!! Read about it online

It's not "forehead", it's "foreskin". And having known both, I can assure you that circumcision is a blessing...not even considering the heavy advantages for hygiene, health, and aesthetics. There is absolutely no connection between Vasectomy and circumcision of males - which is practiced in many more cultural environments than the ones you mention, since at least 35% of males today are circumcised, a figure in constant increase as benefits are more clearly realized. As for vasectomy, it does nothing about hormonal questions: the testicles still produce hormones and they get into the body in the same way as before. The only thing it does is prevent ***** from getting into the ********* - they just "dissolve" inside the balls as they are produced. The problems are the that the cut may be too tight, creating problems during erection, that the male may feel "castrated" (which, technically, he now is since he cannot impregnate a female any longer), that psychology and physical causes may cause changes in his mood and his sexual desires. Some people **** like rabbits once their balls heal, and some people stop ******* altogether. The only reason to do it to males is that castration is easy since the testicles are outside - for a long time castrating the female was a complex internal operation ("tying her tubes"). With current optical surgery through the navel or through the vagina the operation on females is much simpler, doesn't even require hospitalization, and after all the only reason for castration of one or both in a couple is to terminate their fertility: rather terminate the female's fertility since she's bearing the heavy part of pregnancies and births.

Answering on the question " I'm not joking it is equivalent partially to a female circumcision that is banned so why not some legality for the men. "

Doctors making money and A LOT. Same for circumcision, which also affect sensation. Don't do it for your kids. No circumcision, no vasectomy.

V decrease sensation and who is telling that this is not true are liers. They feel bad about it and they wish all man the sam "enjoyment" . Learn about reversal. It will not return 100% sensation, but it could be much better. It also will help to ovoid side effects later in your life. Good luck everyone!!!

There is no similarity whatsoever between circumcision and vasectomy, except both take place on male genitals. That's the stupidest comment. V is a sterilizing operation that, for most men, goes without problems.

I had a hard on the same day about 4 hrs after my vasectomy my sex drive is still way way up there!

Sure. And you ****** the Easter Bunny.

So because this wasnt your experience its not possible? I said i had an erection, i didnt do anything with it. I can assure you this happened. But hey, your experience was different, not my problem

As much as reports of terrible pain are probably fakes in most cases, *********** a couple of hours after a vasectomy, when your balls are still swollen and on ice, is...highly unlikely.

I don't believe a single word of this tall tale, sorry. Unless you had a very special non invasive vasectomy, and even then. ******* right after a vasectomy would make little sense either way, since for a good three weeks you still ********* ***** still present in the tubes, and it takes about that time for the tests to show you're now shooting blanks. And the only point of the operation shoot blanks.

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A vasectomy should be a last resort. Whichever way you take it, it is a minor form of castration physically, but certainly a castration for our unconscious mind: once you can't reproduce inside a female, you're not quite a male any longer, but basically a gelding with erection privileges. Not even counting the fact that a lot of vasectomies create pain afterwards during sex, that many lead to lack of interest in sex, that several require intervention against serious infection...With modern technology let women who want to stop conceiving get their tubes tied. It is a lot more simple nowadays, painless, and at least they are the ones who choose. Men should not get castrated just to please women.

Your an idiot i still f*** like a man and i can assure you i get no complaints. I like the fact I can go bareback without risk of pregnancy. I did this because i wanted to. Your stupid little rant proves you know nothing about the process. For the record I had a urologist do it and they reconnected themselves (confirmed by a ***** test later) but i guess thats not possible either right

Wonderful if it worked for you. But spêaking about stupid, I find reall stupid to get yyour tubes cut in order to get them reconnected. You have a scrotal surgery fetish?

I said they connected themselves i didnt reconnect them, the body works in magical ways.

So what was the whole point? it's obviously botched surgery then, since the aim is to sterilize you and make sure y can't impregnate any longer. As for the erection after surgery, looks to me like a lot of vasectomies where nerves were nicked that shouldn't have...which is exactly the problem raised in theses posts. In most cases they cause a lack of desire, in a lot of cases pain during erection, in some cases erections at times you don't necessarily wish for them...

actually my husband had one. I had on a low cut shirt and I bent over to give him ice in bed and he got a errection. So it is possible.

From abc news...

The second occurs through a process known as re-cannalization, where the small tubes that are sealed off during a vasectomy spontaneously reconnect. It happens in less than one percent of all procedures and the cause is unknown.

"One potential cause of a late or early re-cannalization is something called a ***** granuloma, which occurs when a ***** leaks out of the vasectomy site. There can be a risk of ***** falling out and the ***** reconnecting," Williams said. "Fortunately, it's extremely rare."

Yep, botched op...even it's only 1% of case, if it's your balls and your wife, gf or mistress gets pregnant you can sue the guy who snipped you and was careless not snipping enough or failing to seal the tubes...

Are you for real? it is not easier for a woman to get one, I watched my husband have it done it tooke 10 minutes. He even had a erection when we got home. My husband and I have had 5 childre. It was a joint decision. He is no less of a man because he can't get me pregnant anymore. You guys out there get off your high horses . Your Penis is not some magestic throne. We give birth, we rip, tear, have scars for the rest of our lives, and the pain passing a 10lbs baby out your body is something no man could ever emagin or handle.So getting one little pin size insition on your testical is the least you can do. Be men and suck it up and loose your caveman mentality.

Vaginas and uterus (uteri?) evolved over millions of years to push out babies. Men did not evolve to be partially castrated, nor did women to have their tubes tied. I have been in pain for 8 years and have little sex drive. Work hurts. I don't want to do it anymore. This has destroyed my life and marriage. My wife has suffered as much or more than me. This isn't a man vs women thing. Vasectomy is not safe unless you consider 1 in 10 chance of chronic pain for life safe.

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i know a man who had a vasectomy the marriage lastest another couple of years and they are on their way too separation this my line of work for 30 years i have met so many people at the office with similar problems and most have met new partners and moved forward....if there is a bedroom problem you can attempt do anything and it still does not always work...good luck hope it all works out for you....

I know one woman who has had it done and it was the best thing however she still divorced because it did not solve their sexual problem.

I had a vasectomy from a highly rated doctor two weeks ago, post op pain no problem, my sack hangs lower now and have to wear 2 pairs of briefs to keep them in place, but having had my first bit of sex I have found the ****** to be diminished, that is the draw from the balls, it would have been nice to have been told from the doctor that ****** could be affect, I wouldn't have done it if I had known, also I can feel the terminal ends of the vas as balls the size of a pea, so that also affects my own self fondling, it's like a piece of silk with a god awful knot, the beauty has gone from my sack, I say to all guys considering this to not do it, women have no idea, they think its easier and has no impact, but if they want an idea ask them how sex would feel without their nipples. I think I will be seeking some legal action on this as was not told of this. I have 3 children already and we could have had my wife's tubes tide but this should have been the less intrusive option, now thinking about the consequences my wife tubes tide would have had less impact on our lives, I will be happy for all vasectomies to be banned, save all men's *******. I'm not joking it is equivalent partially to a female circumcision that is banned so why not some legality for the men. I'm just wondering why this is not well publicised, I cant be the only man that gets the draw from the balls satisfaction, not to mention a head job will never be the same. Please anyone considering this operation just way up the cons and it is not worth it, wear a condom, at least you get the complete blow!

My husband had a vasectomy in the spring of 2009 at the tender age of 32. During the procedure he was in pain and the doctor had to stop and administer more anesthesia. My husband has had increased sensation ever since. He says his ******* are not intense at all. This has been so sad for him, and us and we don't know what steps to take to try to improve things.

You should blame yourself for having a 32-yr old male mutilated in his reproductive functions. He should blame the doctor who has cut him so young and apparently did a bad job. If a female doesn't want to conceive any longer there are numerous ways, and rather than have the testicles of her man castrated she should undergo an operation on her own tubes, which is now done very easily through the vagina or through the navel. Or enjoy anal sex when she's fertile...

He's now basically a eunuch. Admit it and act accordingly.

I am 49. I had mine one and a half years ago. Blew a load a few hours after surgery, never had much pain or problem, and my drive is through the roof!

i'm 44, got my vasectomy at 35. i've also had reduced sex drive and reduced fluid emission since the op. pain lasted a couple years for me. all dr's say there is no effect on libido from vasectomy but 1000's of men have it and say so online. the only explanation i've found is "it's psychological". but that doesn't always work. i was psyched to get the op. b4 and after. it's a real phenomenon which dr's simply deny.

My vasectomy did not decrease my drive whatsoever. It's been turned on full blast for years, and has not decreased before or after. I don't think there is any physiological reason for a decrease - hormones are still produced and distributed throughout the body as before.

I suspect that if you look to the circumstances under which vasectomies occur - a change in the number of children in the household, a change in lifestyle, or a resolution never to have children and why that might happen - that these are more likely the factors that contribute to the death of desire within the marriage.

Hi W, My wife is requesting the same, i was not aware of this or the loss of sensation.
mmm makes me think. Thanks for the informative post. Good luck with the drive!!

I had a vasectomy 20+ years ago, at the same time I had a double hernia repair. There was plenty of pain and an awful lot of bruising and I wondered at the time if it was the vasectomy or the hernia repair, that hindered my sex drive. My sex drive seemed fine in the early stages of my marriage and it was often my wife that was "too tired." I had a satisfactory, albeit declining, sex life until I had my prostate removed which entailed removal of the seminal vesicles and two of the sphincter muscles that control urine. Before the surgery I noticed my erections were not what they use to be and certainly didn't last as long. After the surgery I've been completely impotent and slightly urinary incontinent. Last week I found that I have very low testosterone and now, for God's sake, my wife wants sex again. We are retired and she's not as tired as she was when working. I'm happy to oblige, but it means going for implants in my penis (I've tried the pump, the pill, the MUSE, all to no avail) without the seminal vesicles I have no ********* only a little urine...a lot of urine, if I really let go during ******...I understand they have a valve for that, too. I'm taking this one step at a time: first the testosterone, which I will start right away, if nothing else that should give me more energy and I've had very little of that the last two years. I'm doing my own research on the best implants (and talking to my wife about what she would prefer: girth or length) and I have talked to one man who has had the valve for urine (which I will continue to consider if my wife is uncomfortable with the urine, on the other had she might enjoy it as many of the women here have written about). By the end of 2013 I should be a fully functional "bionic man," I am excited with all the advancements of the 21st Century medicine; but I really expected we would have the flying cars by now. And now I've forgotten the reason for posting this response...I'm really hoping the testosterone will help with my focus and concentration. I'll post this and then go back and read the article so I will know why I wrote this.

my bf underwent a vasectomy 3 months ago and lost all sex drive...we are in a new relationship and i find it incredibley hard to live in a sex-less relationship. He is upset by it but it does'nt bother him as much as it does me. What am I to do? Have other males been through this, does the sex drive come back? Is there anything I can do? SHould I talk about it with him, or will that make it worse? HELP!!

You have to talk - there is no point in not discussing it. It seems to be mainly psychological. My H has got his sex drive back - it took time, but it's there. Please do talk to him - to repair your relationship it has to be both of you wanting this. A counsellor might help!

It is not only psychological. You should very likely consider that for emotional sex you'll still feel very good, but for getting ****** physically you may very well need to have lovers on the side. You can't alter what happened to his balls.

My wife wanted me vasectomized ten years ago, but despite the fact everything was scheduled, I had talked to other males and read enough, and decided not to. Several of my friends complained of real pain not only right after the tubes were cut, but for months if not years afterwards; pain during sex, particularly right before *********** - painful enough to lead you to avoid intercourse; infection, sometimes severe. Not even considering the feeling that you had been «castrated» which was present in a number of men. My wife tried to tease me as a «chicken» for a while, but it didn't work. I convinced her that anal sex was a more natural option to avoid babies during the few days of the month when she might conceivably get pregnant. If anyone asked me if they should have a vasectomy, my personal answer would be a resolute NO.

I had a vasectomy 20 years ago. Initially there was great sexual surge in our marriage. Gradually though, my desire became reduced and eventually disappeared. I realise this is probably a mental side effect - but it is however very real. I can no longer ********* during sex with my partner. I put this down to my vasectomy<br />
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I had my vasectomy about 9 years ago and sex has not been anywhere near as pleasurable since. I don't care what any one, especially any Dr. out there, says, I don't know why or how often, but I know absolutely from personal experience that a vasectomy can somehow, at least in some cases, cause some kind of seriously negative affects on how much pleasure a man can experience during sex. <br />
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I also know that in these cases, it is not in any way psychological. I have never had any less desire to have sex with my wife of just over 20 years. It is simply a fact that since the operation, ******* is no where near as strong or pleasurable experience since. <br />
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On rare occasions it feels about 70-80% as good as it once did. The average now, and has been ever since the vasectomy, is about 30-50% as pleasurable as it was before. In bad cases . . . which seems to be about a a quarter to a third of the time, the sensation is either almost nothing or, worse still, a somewhat uncomforable sensation of being strained/constricted somewhere.<br />
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Vasectomy sucks if you are unlucky enough to have these results. Depression is a real potential problem. If you have a similar experience let people know. Doctors have to be held accountable and someone needs to figure out what is done wrong during these procedures to cause such f''ing horrible outcomes.

You're the very example that led me to renounce being VCd. The husband of a woman who turned out - for that reason - to become a mistress of mine had ceased to have sex because his tubes hurt during sex and he gradually stopped ******* her. A colleague suffered from a major infection. Most men I read comments from complained about reduced size and intensity of ***********, which is one the bases for ******* in men. These are physical and not emotional or psychological problems. Women have always contented that it was easy for men to have a little snip in a bag easily accessible while having their tubes tied required extensive internal surgery. On the other hand, with rewcent advances in sugery you can easily have your tubes tied without any major incision, and the fertility of ovaries has no impact whatsoever on female ******* - wheras cutting our tubes can have a very negative impact on our sexual pleasure.

Great information and communication on this board. My husband and I are 37 and he just got a vasectomy 2 months ago. It was a mutual agreement as we have our 3 kids and we r happy w what we have. We had an awesome sex life, so much so that I would make up excuses not to have sex because I couldn't keep up w him. He could not take his hands off me. Now we probably mAke love 3 times a week and partially due to the fact he can't get hard. I think I cried for two weeks already and feel I am out of tears. I also know that he is under a lot of stress from work and he is going to be retiring next yr from the military, so he has a lot on his plate. However, all the stress was well before the vasectomy and his performance was fine. Could this be just another addition to the stress? I have tried to be understanding but I have felt he just wasn't attracted to me anymore or that I am just not good enough, to which it makes our relationship very painful. Sex isn't everything to me but to go from my man can't get enough of me to nothing, is difficult to deal with. Now I am at the point I don't waNt him to touch me because I am afraid we will get aroused only to be disappointed. This is even more of an issue as it is tearing us apart and him being the macho military guy he is, he will not seek counseling. I wish he never got it done, or at least not now and I am trying to be patient and understanding, but it is so emotionally painful.

When I had my vasectomy twenty years ago we did not have the luxury of the internet otherwise I would have been able to research it more thoroughly. Here, in England, we also have a consultation before the operation but very few points were brought to our attention. Now there is a wealth of information on the net which is invaluable to future vasectomees.

Actually here in Oz, they give you a pamphlet and have a consultation before you have the snip. I learned that approximately 1 in 100 men may experience pain after the operation. For many, this pain goes away over time but a small number of men have chronic pain after. This pain can vary from a mild cramp to feeling as if someone's poked your testicles with a sharp stick. In a small proportion of men, the snipped vesicle ends can heal, and reconnect, effectively reversing the vasectomy.

But if you don't go to the Doctor with the initial pain - you wouldn't know that and therefore the psychological effect of 'damaged goods' would come into play without the knowledge that something could solve it ie sex.................perhaps Dr need to be more explicit with their knowledge when men are going for the snip.

The thing is wisiwig, the doctor told me regular sex ensures that the polyps don't have time to form and hence effectively removes the source of the pain.

Interesting - there is something in this - perhaps we should ask women with refuser husbands if they have had vasectomies - there may be a correlation of some sort - then again it might just be another excuse?

I had one a few years ago at my wife's request and experienced some pain afterwards. Like Starved4sex, I found out from the doctor that lack of sex can result in small polyps forming in the seminal vesicles which result in pain when ***********.

Dear FT1066 - that is awful - I don't think that my H is 'faking' it - I do think the pain he experienced afterwards did not help with him feeling that it was all working properly - but why didn't he talk about it? Have you been to see anyone about the ache - it might be worthwhile - ie they may have caught a muscle when sewing it up? All the best.

i also had a vasectomy 4 years ago it hurt a lot afterwards and still causes a nasty dull ache that never completely goes away. It did upset me deeply and I thought I man enough to manage these feelings. I have never fully recovered

Psychological and ego related issues are really difficult to anticipate, and I'm certain have a lot to do with male refusal... any inkling of ED can also have a psychological effect... would rather not do it by choice than because they can't...<br />
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...and getting men into therapy on these issues is very nearly impossible... again, easier to just say no, and think of it as a choice than to admit there is a problem...

I think we need a study on this. I know there are many guys that had this procedure thinking it would help solve the sexless problem and found out like anything else, it was just another excuses.<br />
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I was told how spontaneous we could be, blah blah blah..... NOT!<br />
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Maybe my wife is smart and figured there was a very good chance I would eventually slip it to someone else and didn't want that to be able to hurt her financially?

You know I never thought about this. It would stand to reason that IF we are all hard wired to procriate then this surgery would dimish the sex drive of some men. I guess it is like anything. Different people have different reactions. For some it might be YIPPIEEEE She can't get pregnant, let's have sex every day 3 times a day. For some it might be WHAAAAAA.. I can't make babies, I never want it again<br />
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I know with me, it has not effected my sex drive. But I am not able to last as long, still able to go a long way but just *** to quickly then I'm good to go for a while. That is the only down fall for having the vasectomy for me.

My H has also complained about lack of intensity - maybe there is something in it?

I had one done about 10 years ago and it did NOT go well! There was pain that I could not imagine during the procedure and honestly it the doctor wouldn't have had control of an area very dear to me, I think I would have actually killed him. It took way longer to feel better that they claim and from time to time I still have some pain but I have read that may be caused from lack of use. How great is that?<br />
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I did NOT however change my sex drive at all and it did NOT change the lack of sex even though I was promised that it would make things much easier and safer and we could have fun anytime we wanted to........<br />
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I did think for a long time that it changed the intensity of ****** but I'm not really sure on this one. There are so many other factors in the way with a sexless marriage so I have know way of knowing if it just seemed like it?<br />
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Basically, everything seemed as good a usual during sex and would build up to ***********, and then it was just blah..........<br />
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I'll be anxious to do some more research on this in the future with a more willing partner and see how things go!

My ex husband had a vasectomy (I know, 'cause I watched the whole thing. Cool!). No impact on sex drive. He had the "no scalpel" vasectomy that was all done through a tiny pokehole.

Ex husband being the key to your post. I suggest it did effect him.

This is an interesting point as I am considering a vasectomy myself. I don't think I could afford to bring any children into this world following the possible financial settlement from my future separation and divorce. Having helped raise my three adoptive children, all my energies and financial resources are plain gone. Despite still feeling the need to sow my oats, vasectomy seems the only realistic choice but this unwelcome side-effect described could just be the last straw in my sexless life.<br />
Wisi, I hope you find the answers you seek.

It may or may not apply in Wisi's situatioon. It may be that Wisi's DH is using this as an "excuse" . . . only Wisi's DH can know this for certain!!<br />
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BUT . . . there is plenty of evidence that there IS a link - albeit for a very small percentage (less than 1%) between vasectomy and sexual problems. Just because we haven't experienced it ourselves or don't know about it does not mean it does not exist.<br />
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HOWEVER - and this is important Wisi!! Even if this is TRUE, your husband's reluctance to examine it (until forced to do so by) and his general willingness to avoid confronting the issue of your sexless marriage until compelled to, speaks LOUDLY of other issues going on here. <br />
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Whilst it may well be true that the vasectomy DID affect him adversely, he did not seek to do anything about it. In one story I read the guy (who had been adversely affected sexually) said he had sought advice and help from "dozens of doctors" . . . NOT something you have observed with your DH I think.<br />
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I do hope you can find a "real" problem to fix - as in a physical one, and that it may turn your DH around. But think carefully on this . . . has he left it "too late" to take action to save your marriage?

I was intrigued by this Wisi, so I checked it out on Google. It seems this IS a legitimate issue - and many men feel it is physical rather than psychological in nature. Whilst it appears that less than 1% have problems, that is still a HIGH number of men considering the number of vasectomies undertaken.<br />
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I suggest you do a search on the topic and read a variety of sites to get some insight into the problem. Maybe your DH could benefit from reading these as well . . . he may feel he is the "only one" to have these difficulties.<br />
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Best of luck in finding an acceptable solution to all this. {{{Hugs}}}

My H had already had a Vasectomy when we met and his sex drive was very ok! he didn't want the op his ex wife had made him and so I paid for his reversal that he wanted nearly 3 years ago now and at last sad count we have had sex 8 times since then and not for the past 22 months!<br />
He said at one point he has had functional problems since the op but I have seen proof that he does not so it is interesting that a doc says it is in the mind sometimes perhaps I should get him counciling or just get him wasted and jump on!

I know one person who had a vasectomy and like @simon, it did not affect his sex drive in any way.<br />
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Since it's psychological, it's going to be about personal perception isn't it?

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I had a vasectomy after the birth of our second child 20 years ago. I felt a bit sore for a few days after but resumed sexual activity more or less immediately. My wife said that she would be more available for love making afterwards because she would not have any fear of pregnancy. Sadly this turned out not to be the case. I found that my sexual desire remained undiminished as it does to this day.