Sexless Life With No Light At The End Of The Tunnel...My road to a sexless marriage is long and complicated.
When we met I would say my husband’s libido was higher than mine but I don’t remember refusing. Then, as the time went by my libido kept going up while his took a nosedive.
Looking back, I believe he started losing his ability to get erections few years after we married. First, he was only able to do it in the morning and then not even every morning. Since I wanted sex and he could not always provide it, sex became very stressful for him. Then came fertility complications. Obviously, doing it at the right time to get pregnant was very difficult on him and sucked all the joy out of sex for both of us. To top it off, we had a long struggle with infertility. After many years of trying, treatments and 2 surgeries on my part, I finally got pregnant. This followed by a difficult pregnancy through which I bled on and off; we were ordered “no pelvic activity” for the first several months. In the end, we just stopped doing it the entire pregnancy. After our daughter was born we never re-started our sex life, whatever was left of it anyways. We took several vacations while my parents watched our daughter but my husband just can’t get it up. Probably a combination of physical and mental factors. And he is not willing to go to a specialist.
Can someone explain to me why it is such a big deal for a man to see a specialist????
These days playing computer games replaced sex for him. He tells me that games help him to relax but I just don’t see why sex can’t be a part of his relaxation. At this point I am just hoping that perhaps an enlarged prostate or whatever is causing his ED makes him unable to pee and then he will be forced to see a dr.
I am not willing to leave my husband over my sexless existence but I do feel very frustrated and sad since I am not even 40 yet. My husband keeps telling me that he just can’t order his body to get erected or smth like that. In the absence of a physical problem shouldn’t a man be able to do that???
A male perspective is greatly appreciated!!!