Does Your Refuser Have A Personality Disorder?When we hear the term 'psychopath', most of us think of Jeffrey Dahmer, Charles Manson, John Wayne Gacy Jr. and Ted Bundy to name a few, but psychopaths do not always break the law, and are not as rare as you may think. I'm reading a book about psychopaths in the workplace and it points out just how prevalent psychopathy is in society today. See if the following describes your partner.
The following is an excerpt from the book: "Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go To Work" by Paul Babiak, Ph.D. and Robert D. Hare, Ph.D.
"One may argue that psychopaths who live freely in society simply have not yet been caught committing a crime or engaging in socially destructive behavior. Given the psychopaths’ personality features, and their inclination for breaking the rules and pushing the envelope of acceptable human behavior, there is some merit to this argument. Still, just having a psychopathic personality disorder does not make one a criminal. Some psychopaths live in society and do not technically break the law — although they may come close, with behavior that usually is very unpleasant for those around them. Some may lead seemingly normal lives, not hurting people in ways that attract attention, but causing problems nonetheless in hidden economic, psychological, and emotionally abusive ways. They do not make warm and loving parents, children, or family members. They do not make reliable friends or coworkers. Many psychopaths adopt a parasitic existence, living off the generosity or gullibility of others by taking advantage of and often abusing the trust and support of friends and family. They may move from place to place and from one source of support to another. You probably know one. You could work for, work with, or be married to someone with a psychopathic personality and not know that there is a formal psychological term for the individual who causes you so much pain and distress. He or she can be a neighbor, friend, or family member whose behavior you may find fascinating, confusing, and repelling."