Compromised Sexual expression.I'd like to explore a scenario with you all about dysfunctional marriages.
It was prompted by something AC wrote along the lines of "us (the sexually refused) who are the crazies for staying. Most divorces go into refusal stage in the process, the spouses are not screwing each other silly right up until they hit the court house".
Been thinking about this, and I think AC has hit on a basic truth. Most dysfunctional marriages (whatever the cause of the dysfunction) usually result in the cessation of sexual ex
In ILIASM, we are addressing a symptom. That of the lack of sexual ex
Spouses who are considering the future of their marriage given the trouble of 'cheating', 'addiction', 'mental / physical abuse', 'insert your own choice here' would be dealing with the same issue of sexual ex
But perhaps THEY see the sexual ex
I would put forward the view that -
- Just about any dysfunctional marriage will exhibit a lack of sex between the spouses.
- The lack of sex needs to be put into the context of the total marital situation
- The sex in and of itself is not the problem
And the two awful choices are the same irrespective of the dysfunction. It is NOT unique to sexless marriages. Spouses in abusive / addictive / unfaithful / insert your choice here / are facing the same thing - and dealing with the lack of sexual ex
We ILIASM people often start trying to deal with just the lack of sexual ex
Tread your own path.
PS - and thanks AC, for that comment that got me thinking.
bazzar 56-60, M 34 Responses 20 May 27, 2011