Why The Male Refuser Cuts So DeepI in no way want to diminish the very real pain and frustration of the many men who have shared their stories but want to share something only another female can really identify with - the way the male refuser cuts so deep into the heart and soul of a woman.
Males are programmed by nature and evolution to be the sexual aggressor, to conquer, to possess. The female has evolved to respond and surrender...or not. I am only pointing out that the male in general has more experience of sexual rejection and is perhaps better prepared to deal with it. In the animal kingdom the male is the predator - can you imagine a male dog refuser who opts not to follow the scent of the *****, or the lion with an aversion to the females in his pride?
As for fairy tales - well they are often deep and dark with sexual symbolism so where would Snow White, Cinders and the Sleeping Beauty be if their princes had been inclined to refuse?
We are programmed, perhaps wrongly, to believe that most men are keen to have sex so when our partner withdraws all interest it seems to go against nature and it cuts us to our core.
wracy 46-50, F 30 Responses 5 May 30, 2011