Wife's Weight Gain Has Ended Our Sex Life
I have had little to no sex with my wife for the last 3-4 years for one simple reason - her weight gain. There is no other issue like communication, romance, money, etc...it's a very simple explanation.
And for those that want to ask, yes I did tell her this a while ago. After being miserable for over a year to both me and to her since I didn't know how to say it, she finally told me to go to a marriage counselor. Short version is I finally told her this during a meeting that her weight is the reason I do not want to have sex with her.
For all the damage it has done, I do not regret it because I was MISERABLE holding it in!! About a year ago we were trying to discuss this issue and she told me that her sex drive has gone down a lot since I told her this (although she said she pretty much knew the reason).
She was definitely not boring in the sack and does not have the issue that some women have of just laying there, but I am just no physically attracted to have sex with her. Now even our cuddling/affection is minimal.
It has been about 8 months since we were last intimate and it was not very enjoyable. We have a 2 year old daughter (through adoption). We tried to conceive about 3-4 years ago but that became too mechanical and I am still a little resentful she didn't even TRY to lose weight under OB/GYN recommendations to help our chances (although I wouldn't trade my daughter for anything in the world!).
I don't know what to do and would appreciate your feedback! I have even had thoughts about how to just have a physical affair just to quench that desire since it is not happening here.