This Is For MountainGal73.....

I do not know why I could not post to your story earlier. Very strange. However, I did want to offer some advice for your situation.
I know what you are going through with the "job hopper" problem on your resume. I, too, have this problem. After 9 years employment, I went overseas to live with my husband for a year. I came back and worked a temp job and then a legal assistant job almost two years while sponsoring my husband for his greencard.  I was promoted into a department only to be laid off a month later along with two other employees.  A clean sweep.  I was royaly pissed because I refused a job offer (at the same time I received the offer of promotion)  from another company that did not have health insurance.  The reason I could not take the other job offer was because my husband refused to sign me onto his company medical insurance to punish me.  My husband's exact words were, "why should I put you in my medical insurance for the way you have behaved to me?"  It all backfired on him and me when I got laid off.   I snapped.   I busted my chops bringing the man/boy to USA and this is how he morally supported me.  Supported him for six months while he did not work, made his resume, wrote cover letters, found him a company where he received a job, paid for driving lessons....Yes. I was pissed.  Why shouldn't I be?  I took off to SE Asia, Thailand and India for 9 months. Yes, I was escaping in grand style.  So now my resume looks fairly choppy and I am facing the same problems as you.

You may be entitled to one or two further extension periods on your unemployment benefit. I suggest you look at what federal and state programs there are currently for extensions in your state.

I have a friend who suffered severe anxiety attacks on such a regular basis she had to go to the ER almost monthly with symptoms of a heart attack/stroke. She finally started taking a low dose anti depressant and hasn't had an attack since. When I started going into a deep depression (with anxiousness) I finally took her suggestion to take an anti depressant also. I was resistant at first. The first med made me feel weird, but I switched to something else and now feel much better. Like my "old self" before marriage and unemployment. My counselor even suggested that in my depressed mental state, I was not in a good position to even find work and hold it down. So things are looking better now.

I sincerely believe the first priorty for you is to get your anxiety problem under control. Seek out individual counseling if it is available to you. It will help. Speak to your primary care physician about going on an anti anxiety med. If only to get you through this crisis period. Taking the med does not require a life long commitment if you are able to develop other techniques to handle your stress.

Once you get your anxiety issues under control, you will be in a much better position to deal with the unemployment issue, finding work (resumes, interviews, etc) and starting a new job. Additionally, you will be able to clearly focus on your marital problems of sexlessness to determine if your husband is holding back on sex because of your situation - or - if he is a loving, but well entrenched Refuser. Only when you have clearly defined the problems and decided things are unfixable is when you should make any moves. Stay or leave. But do it for yourself. Not running to one person as an escape from your troubles. Or staying in a marriage out of uncertainty.
Good luck

PS...Just want to clarify, I am not saying MountainGal73 must go on meds....But if counseling and other stress relief options (meditation, yoga, exercise, whatever) are not sufficient, meds are a possible supplemental option