Two Strikes I'm Out!
Second marriage, completely different issues, headed to the same intersection. I'm so glad I found this group, because I didn't even know this was a common problem. My first wife was a sex maniac, and for all of our dysfunction, this was NOT one of our issues. In fact quite the opposite. I think we used sex as a cover up for all of our other issues. I now know that was better LoL. Yeah, so I was blindsided by this. Such is life. So my first marriage failed due to actions and inaction on both our parts mostly because we were both a couple of too young knuckleheads. I changed locations and met my current wife who w!s completely different in every way. We were best friends. Little did i realize her family had treated her so badly she was permanently screwed up beyond all recognition. We're talking immediate family, here. Crackhead mother, crazy narcissist dad, the works. She can't allow herself to trust anyone enough with her emotions. She lied about that through the beginning. She refuses to help consistently with any housework, is inefficient with her time to the point that she seems helpless and reliant on me for every aspect of our married life, although she is school and is great at it. That is, however her ONLY interest. We average a 3-4 times per year sex life. It is still early in a 3 year marriage so I'm not even sure what I'm going to decide yet, but it is nice to have an avenue to vent frustration. More to come, but I must do this on my phone so it is time consuming LoL.