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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Some Improvements

By: IndyJoe
Written on August 13th, 2011
My marriage is still sexless for the most part, but there is the occasional hand job or blow job. I still miss the fun and passion my wife and I used to share and hope that someday it all comes back before its too late. Sex has little to do with why I love my wife.....I want and enjoy sex with her because I love her. I am happy with our marriage. I couldnt ask for better or more in spite of the lack of sexual intimacy. Im just scared that this is something that we will lose as time goes on....it helps make our relationship complete.
By: IndyJoe
Age: 41-45 , Male
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10 responses
  • CountryAngel69
    CountryAngel69

    I believe a huge reason why my first relationship ended was because I wasn't putting out enough :/ Its good that you love your wife for more than just sex

    Dec 31, 2012
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  • Edward51
    Edward51

    Wow, what a difference between what you wrote in 2008 and 2011. My wife just came out as bi. It's helped our reationship except in the bedroom. She still insists she's bi, not gay, and that she still loves me. She just doesn't want to have sex with me.

    Sep 17, 2012
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  • thunderkat1982
    thunderkat1982

    Good luck, bro:)

    Sep 9, 2012
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  • ModLulu
    ModLulu

    "Hoping" for things to improve is a guaranteed no-win for you. Improved and maintained intimacy is something that has to be actively sought, striven for, and demanded.



    Trust us, waiting around for it to fix itself WILL FAIL.

    Aug 17, 2011
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    • Wolfy1
      Wolfy1

      Modlulu and Baz are two people I consider quite wise here. And occasionally even Ron's rather blunt and often negative comments are often filled with insight ..if rather hard to digest.

      I am in the same boat - feel free to read my stories as it sounds like you may be months or years behind me but on the same road...
      In this case Modlulu is totally correct....if you wait ...you may find yourself torn between wanting it to come back and not caring if it does. This is a really bad place to be for you....and likely for her too...

      I found this board when I thought I wanted to fix it. I now find myself leaning the other way....I think I waited and hoped too long. Don't be me...

      Dec 18, 2011
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  • bazzar
    bazzar

    Quoting you here - "Im just scared that this is something that we will lose as time goes on".



    Going by this, and your past, stories, that horse has bolted hasn't it ??



    Tread your own path.

    Aug 13, 2011
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  • NoLongerPresent
    NoLongerPresent

    Hope is a really bad plan but if it is due to illness and meds then you are left in the most helpless of positions. Good luck bro.

    Aug 13, 2011
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  • hl42
    hl42

    I think she is very lucky to have you.



    Keep asking for what you want. Best wishes.

    Aug 13, 2011
    3 likes
  • NowSeekingHookups
    NowSeekingHookups

    But don't let it go too long. One thing I have learned, even though it was due to a very real illness once it has been gone years, it is nearly impossible to reintroduce it. Do some research & you will discover this is a VERY common problem.

    Aug 13, 2011
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  • IndyJoe
    IndyJoe

    Most of it is due to illness and medications (hers). Patience is all I have for this situation.

    Aug 13, 2011
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