Is My Life Over At 44?Here I am, an American living with her German husband in Germany, 44 years old, and longing for intimacy. Everything was ok until we moved here (for the first two years of our marriage we lived in Holland because of my job). Once we moved here in Germany to his hometown, he became somebody else. And sex....it started to disappear as he became moodier and moodier. He tells me it is all about stress, but this problem has been going on for 5 years now. I understood part of his issues because there were a lot of unresolved conflicts from his past with regards to his father and sisters, but he does not seem interested in taking steps to remedy the lack of physical affection between us. Sex became twice a month, then once a month and then once every two months. That is about how it is now.
We even had to go through IVF to have a child because of his inability to perform when needed.
A few weeks ago I decided to have affairs. There is a website here in Germany for people who wish to do so called First Affair. I have a couple of appointments set up for next week when I get back to Germany.
I am interested to hear about women who have managed to keep their marriages in tact while pursuing sexual gratification outside of marriage. Can you do it without getting hurt? Does it help to have a couple of affairs running at once? Tell me your secrets ladies. I do not want to leave my husband. We have been through so much together and he is a good friend to me and loving father to our little girl. But obviously, I am not going to allow myself to be trapped in a prison of celibacy any more.
Tell me how to be successful at this.