Uh Oh, Now What?When I married my husband 25 years ago, I knew his libido was not as strong as mine. Of course, I never would have believed that he would stop having sex with me. Like many here, I blamed myself: not attractive enough, too aggressive, too fat, not sexy, too demanding and critical (let's face it, an unsatisfied woman can be a real *****). But many of my friends told me that I was sexy and desirable woman. So I continued to beg, cajole, demand, and 3 years ago started to threaten: "if you won't make love to me I will find someone who will!"
I am not a woman that makes idle threats. Last year I began an affair with a man I adore and love. It started off simple: just sex, wonderful, incredible sex! But has become much more complicated as we have fallen in love.
My lover and I began the relationship with the understanding that I had no intention of leaving my husband. But while I still do love my husband, it is not the same because I now am in love with another man.
OK, MORE DETAILS: I told my husband several months ago about the affair and while there were some rough times, we are still together. I know this sounds lame, but I didn't want to lie to him anymore, and if I am honest, probably some part of me wanted him to leave me.
Obviously, he wants me to stop the affair, which I have not agreed to do. However, I have not been with my lover for months although we sext regularly. He actually moved to another city and we have not gotten together. I know that day to day life with my lover would be much different than the afternoons we were able to spend together. I have tried to break it off, but frankly am not able to.