(venting) Marriage Therapy Is Working Out Much Better Than I Thought..... . . because I'm not the one going to it.
After meeting with the MT together 2x, then separately 1x, the MT basically told me he'd be meeting with my husband for awhile alone, and would check back in with me periodically. I don't know what they're talking about, but my life in this marriage has gotten better. Since the MT agrees that my concerns are more than legit, DH is enjoying his sessions, and things are getting better, at least temporarily, then gesundeheit.
The MT asked me in my individual session how it could be that DH could be familiar with all of my grievances, but not seem to think they had any weight, that they were of no consequence? My understanding is that DH is an SOB who uses brinksmanship to get what he wants. But in a passive aggressive way, wrapped up in niceness, and just doesn't realize that he's Dorian Gray. I didn't realize he was Dorian Gray until I saw the portrait in the attic last year. Because I refuse to sacrifice my child to play the kind of hardball necessary to regain equity in the relationship, I am held hostage to it.
On a more positive note, the exit plan proceeds apace.
I am so glad this forum is here. It makes a big difference.