Passionless Marriage Is Just As Bad As A Sexless MarriageMy marriage is passionless and emotionless, which to me is just as bad as sexless. Because of my affair, my husband does not initiate sex--we have had sex many times when I wasn't in the mood because I'm never in the mood, and I feel that is my problem, so I agree to sex. He acknowledges the lack of passion, but is happy to be "getting it" twice a week.
My husband is a gorgeous, chiseled man for his 53 years. He can't get over the fact that I had an affair with someone who is not. My husband likes having a "hot" wife on his arm to show off, that's his selfish side.
People say they can't read my husband. He shows no emotion and he acknowledges that. So what people see is what I get at home. When we married I was fine with that because I was still numb from the death of my previous husband seven months earlier. Yes, we should've waited. I accepted the lack of passion because I wanted safety. He accepted me in my broken state thinking I would be better in time. Well in time, I came to realize my mistake.
So we have agreed to stay together and pay down OUR debt. We are both professionals and can do this in a year. We don't rely on each other for money.
We are great roommates. We work out together and go out together, but we do not have and have never had those nights where we stare into each others eyes and have in depth conversations, except for the conversations about my affair. He was divorced for 19 years before we married. He says he won't marry again. I don't care to either, but I want passion and emotion.
amyw27 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 Dec 8, 2011