Marriage Counselling Round 4We have been to see four different marriage counselors. The first one was about 3 years ago, she was good, I liked her. My Wife did not care for her. My wife communication skills have declined since her illness. While in session she would get nervous and tong tied, feeling like she was to blame for all our woes. We stopped seeing this therapist after about 10 weeks. One good outcome was my Wife be-gain to realize the pain I had been in over the previous years.
About a year later, we started seeing another therapist. My wife liked him, he had experience with dealing with health issues similar to hers.. He like to hear himself talk, so talk he did, almost the entire session. She liked him because her outgoing communication could be kept at a minimum while she sat and listened. I did not like him, he seemed arrogant, dismissive of my conjectures. However, my wife like him so i was willing to stay with him, after about 10 sessions my job got transferred to Texas from New York, so we ended with him.
About a year ago I told my wife I was thinking about having an affair so we needed to go to counseling again. After about 6 sessions with this new lady I felt cured. I no longer had a desire to have an affair. I was still in a SM, but for some reason I did not feel the need for an affair any more. (the feeling could have related to my ever-changing anti-depression drug combos.)
Last couple of months by desire for intimacy and sex have been building again. I talked to my Wife about having an open marriage to get my needs met. That when over as well as a lead balloon. So here we are again, seeing our fourth Marriage Counselor, we have had 3 sessions in the last week, our next one is next week.
Aside from Marriage Counselling I have been in single private therapy for the most part of 10 years.
I am getting tired.