We had another therapy session and my therapist was fantastic as usual. The long and short of it is that my soon to be xrefuser still refuses to do anything to improve our marriage. The therapist has been fantastic all along and he asked me to give marriage therapy a year so I am. Well we are ten months into therapy and last night the therapist told me infront of dh that I need to start putting into action my plan of action because dh has not given me a single reason not to divorce him and dh has no intention in making any effort. He also told dh that he is a spirtually, mentally and emotionally abusive husband and that for my sake I need to move on. After the session the therapist pulled me aside and told me to do whatever I need to do to protect myself and kids and plan for our futures alone. He also asked for us to come back in next week so I will. I will miss the therapist when all of this is over.