The Latest ....We spoke again last night. Same responses pretty much. So today we went for a walk together, alone. The kids stayed at home. I listened to him for a while and then I brought up where we stood. He said he was trying. We finished our walk and he was even somewhat affectionate through the day until we started just chatting and I made the comment "along with the other problems we have" as part of a conversation about our son's difficulties. He immediately jumped and accused me of pushing the no sex issue. I didn't say anything about that. I generalized about all of our difficulties but he went right to that.
Wow, did I get an earful. Then suddenly we weren't talking much again. We worked together making dinner but if I was in the kitchen he was on his computer in the other room. It was as if nothing had happened. I decided to take a bath and relax awhile and I made it clear that I would be available. He didn't even come in to say Hi. He used to come in and at least wash my back but that was years ago.
I wonder what he is really trying to do. I have to admit that leaving is looking more and more appealing but I worry about our son. He really needs both of us and if I leave I will go back to where my family is so that I have support. Still confused.