My Sex Life With My Wife Sucks!!! Help
I am totally embarrased to speak to anyone about the troubles that I am facing because I feel like I put myself in this situation.
I have been with my wife since high school and I could never keep my hands off of her. Its been about 17 years 5 years of marriage and a couple of kids.
When I look back at it, we have never had passionate sex and she has never been a passionate person in that department. I figured that things would change as time progressed. Well it didnt, things actually have gotten a lot worst since I got married. I have learned that sex is something that is NOT on her radar at all. She actually shudders at the mention of "that conversation about sex" that we always have.
Its gotten to the point now where she has agreed to give it to me when I ask for it.
Now, honestly I feel terrible having to ask for it, but a man needs to do what man needs to do right? For the first couple of months I just dealt with it, but as time progressed I noticed that I was thinking about too many things during sex. I am now at the point where I cannot focus on the act becuase I am too caught up with thinking about what she is thinking. I am a sexually free person, I will do whatever, wherever to make her happy. Am I asking too much to have sex 2-3 times a week with my wife? I dont want to cheat because I am afraid of the drama that it might bring. I told her that since I was her first (and according to her, the only) that maybe she needs to venture out to see what else it out there and then come back and see that it really doenst get better than someone that is eager to fullfill ANY AND EVERY sexual thought that she has.
I dont know what to do, I stay in a frustrated state. I feel like i live with a roommate, we dont kiss, we have superficial hugs, when she does initiate sex its on her terms. Its very robotic, I hate my life at home right now. Help me cope please.. and I feel like i brought this on myself because I knew that this was the case before I got married and now I feel like I am stuck and sex isnt important enough to leave behind 2 kids and a comfortable life. I have a buddy of mine that I like and she likes me and I know that I will get intimacy if I started something but i dont want to put her in a bad situation where I cant give her everything that she needs,.
I have more to write but, I dont think that an ebook can fit on this page.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated