Are You Mature Enough To Post A Story On Iliasm?

Well written! Adult responses and attitudes need to be in place here.

Aha now i have figured out the who and the what.



Hmmm.... variety is the spice of life but yeah sometimes there is too much choice.

Geez you dont log on for a few days and miss all the action.



Sometimes we just need to breathe and fill in our time with something else for a few days.



I mean it is only an online forum, but it always amazes me how touchy we all get [me included] about corresponding with people we may never meet. Silly really.

I loved your story Zsu! Because the self same posters give me the *****!!

I certainly do NOT expect everyone to think like me, to agree with me or to want to follow my suggestions.



But I contribute to ILIASM in the hope that it will be of some use to some one somewhere. And if a poster finds that my information is of no value to them,they are totally fine to ignore it. . .



But to carry on with great huffiness, or rudeness, or anger is to imply (to me) that my posts are valueless. And that is both insulting and untrue.



Baz and I sometimes look at each other with wry grins and say:

"Not much doubt why THAT one is in a sexless marriage, huh?!!"



We may well be off target, but anyone who acts selfishly, rudely, insanely is unlikely to be a highly attractive sexual partner and a great candidate for an intimate, loving and respectful relationship IMO!!

Beautifully put, thanks.



The only things that have me going some - and not that much - are posters that:



a) believe at some level they are right, that do not question that presumption;



b) wish to dismiss other people's contributions (particularly whilst complaining that their own posts are being drowned out).



I think the only reason I'd respond is that I don't want other people infected with that mindset, and wish to offer a counter-example.

Good rules! I think I can follow them.

I keep things simple if I can. I have a hammer here and if I get too pissed off I hit something with it.









Did you know you can get an armful of used keyboards from the computer recycling place for about $10? ;=)

The only thing necessary for evil refusers to triumph on the internet is for suckers like us to continue paying them attention.



Ignore the trolls and they will go away.

Baz and SF, you surely don't deserve to be targets.

Okay.. Since I was (unfortunately) involved in (one of many possible) the cat fights with said member. I did find this amusing. Actually hilarious. I'm glad to see that the insanity of it all has brightened your day. I feel like this would make a beautiful flow chart. I was a lurker for a long time before I jumped into the group. I enjoy the truthfulness of it all at ILIASM - even when it is hard to stomach. Reading the comments is different than when they're hurled at you. But maybe how you deal with it is a good predictor of where you are in the path of your life. If someone is unable to absorb the honest perspectives of others, while maintaining their own identify and critical reasoning, then I think they are probably not able to even be honest with themselves. I am glad that most of the participants are here to help look at the hard facts and support eachother in being true to themselves. This group could easily turn into one giant pity party, but instead is a dose of reality. You don't have to agree with someone in order to use their thoughts to help you understand yourself. Maybe it's pessimistic here, but I'll gladly take pessimism over delusion. I think that some people just aren't ready to deal with reality - and may never be ready for it. I had a long day of studying. And I'm tired, but I'm thankful for ILIASM because it helps ground me. The strength of the people here is truly inspiring. And the humor's pretty great too.

I just had to say awesome post - thank you :) 'Lurkers" need love too - thank you for the smile :)

Ahhh. Yes, I have noticed those things from that person. Well, hard to miss really. ;-)

Thanks for all your advice/suggestions.



For those not in the know, I was commenting specifically to the antics if one poster who did all the above to various commenters just today, who shall not be named but whose initials are BT. For the past week I have seen this happening in her posts, and finalky today I spoke up and called her on it, which led to various more antics, including her posting "sorry too busy getting laid", etc.





Now I am ashamed I took the bait, and I will henceforth attempt to ignore said troll's posts.



This story was my attempt to add some humour to the situation.



I realize she is dealing with some pretty strong demons,ut its not my problem.



Apologies to anyone else who mistake this as an attack on them.

Most of the time I don't care about all of the drama that goes on around here, but once in a while it'd be fun to know what the hell is going on.

Okay, everyone: I have a suggestion. Everyone who is hating and bitter, take a deep breath. Everyone who is sensitive, take a deep breath. Everyone who is acting like this is high school with silly antics to each other, take a deep breath. I am trying to cope with LIASM. I am reading comments which for the most part are pessimistic. I do not feel the need to call any of you names. Please, for all our sakes, let's try to respect each other. We all come from different places and can share our experiences to help and to support one another. That is why I am here. Some of the people who contribute are lonely and just want to hear something little that may brighten their day. And, let's face it, couldn't we all use a little more brightness? Our reality is hard enough!

:

MsZ,



it is true that the odd post comes up in here that seems to have its' origins in the mentality of the facile vicarious world of facebook where peoples otherwise drab world is painted as wildly exciting and filled with earth shattering drama.



Comment deleters are not one of my favourite things either. And revisionists - who alter past comments are a damn pox.



But, it cost me nuthin' to join this group, so I ain't complaining about the price of admission.



And, to the chick who keeps sending me inane pm's - give it a rest will you, or I might have to go against my avowed policy of not blocking anyone.



Tread your own path.

WFT? Go smoke another rock.

I have not had that unfortunate experience here I am sorry that you have. Everyone needs a safe place to vent and even stories that are different parts may be similar to your life.

Nice to hear that you understand people's take on things is different. We all cant be the same. Some of us roll over and get walked on others get up and fight. Either way there is always going to be people that disagree with us.



The only decision that matters is yours. We can only post our opoinion and how we would deal with the situation.



Stay Strong & Good Luck