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I Met Someone Beautiful (part2)

OK.......I have been holding back on this story......because...well.....I was savouring it like a great meal or a fantastic wine.

I met her again ! (see my first version of this story)

I know some folks have found their exit strategy or illuminated their paths.......and we all do this at our own pace.
For me.....I am still where I was........but 3 months ago I discovered I could have feelings for a real person in the real world and it gave me hope, a smile, some sadness when reflecting on my current situation, but ultimately it confirmed my humanity.

So fast forward to the recent present.

She is still very beautiful. She is also damn sexy. And she is also a fantastic person.
She is also still far from me on a day to day basis.....but fate crossed our paths.
And she came to meet with me.

All I can say is...thank you fate.

Hope burns eternal.
Beaverman Beaverman 41-45, M 5 Responses Feb 25, 2012

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Thanks for the candid feedback everyone.



No..I am not planning a divorce. My choice is to stay. I have made it...I will live with it.



My main reason for posting this was to give encouragement to others like ourselves, to let them know there is hope and the possibility.

For too long I believed I could never even have the slightest chance......I now know that is not true. But she has her life....I have mine.



For now we are friends. And that is not a bad thing :)

As someone who has perhaps "met a soul mate" ...But has chosen to remain for the time being due to other concerns. I can tell you that this feels absolutely terrible from personal experience.



If you have decided to go - go and get it done. Build your life as you see fit and then see if this new relationship will work. If not you will then have a base to operate from and the freedom to be yourself for the next person.



I blame no one for my choices. They are mine - I own them and they own me .... I hope that there is more then one soul mate for each of us...or that by grace, the woman I have very strong feeling for now, will somehow still be available when I do get out. Or if not that removal of the things that block my leaving now will provide for a return to the love my wife and I once shared (though I have pretty much found that unlikely). I would not trade this position to my worst enemy...

been there Wolfy1, and it was hell. but you can make it out the other side. i think you're almost there...

Time to make plans. Trying to get a divorce and have a romance is difficult to impossible. So get a divorce and go on with your life. You do not want to trip up now.

Back on Aug 22nd last year, I appended this comment to your story -



- "Your birthday 'could' mark the day you started on your exit strategy.



Equally, it could mark the day as being the day you did NOT start your exit strategy.



There's a choice for you"



In light of the scenario enna paints (above), are you going to be in a situation where you can pursue this, if it has legs ?



Tread your own path.

One BIG question for you. . . . are you working on getting out of your current situation? If, as it seems, you may have met your soul mate, I hope you will not throw away this magnificent gift by allowing your present situation to continue as it has been . . .

Best of luck for the happiest of futures!!