She's Finally Said It.

On Sunday, my wife finally said that she'd lost all interest in sex, so in turn, I've now lost all interest in her. We've been married for 29 years and for the last 15, sex has been hit and miss to say the least. We did have a good sex life to start with, that's one of the reasons I wanted to marry her. She, as I have suffered with depression over the years, and I am not the most exciting person on the planet. I've gained weight over the years, but there again most people do as they get older. She has always been over weight and used to be very feisty, but I liked the bigger girl and sex was good. Her depression grew and other illnesses appeared, but I just carried on and supported her. She now says that she does not want sex because she feels used, how can she feel used when we don't do it. When we did she always enjoyed it and always had at least 4 *******. What have I done wrong? The intimacy started to disappear long time ago. I don't think I've kissed her on the lips for 15 years and we no longer hug or cuddle. She always says that I can't cuddle without it becoming sexual. I realise that everyone is different, but I've always needed a physical side to life, I'm not ready to stop having sex. She said on Sunday that if I did meet anyone, don't bring it home, so i won't; but I will find someone and I will have sex again. Her parting shot was, we've a life and a house, do you want to sacrifice that, in a word yes because I don't have a full filling life, and I need one
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1 Response Mar 26, 2012

Did you have the conversation tape-recorder? She will later deny it. The problem becoms, how to be happy having an affair, which is also living a lie. Life is complicated. As Bazz would say, time to make an exit plan.