I too am in the same situation as these other fellows. My wife is a lovely woman who I love and care about with all my heart. However my heart has broken with the knowledge of not having sex anymore. We use to have sex everyday 2-3 times, but since her Menopause creeped into our lives that has halted completely. We use to talk about everything under the sun, but now our words are limited to only hi baby, good night baby, yes I still love you. She tells me she is sorry that she does'nt experience the pleasure of sex anymore. So I can't have sex with her, can't touch her breast nipples because she does'nt like that, she goes to bed with all her cloths on as I lie there wishing for sex. Okay I understand she does'nt feel any emotion down there anymore, but what happened to oral sex?? Well apparently that has gone out the same door too, she won't even consider doing that with me as we use to all the time. We talked about her going to a doctor for hormone treatment, it worked but she didn't like the stomach pain and periods again so she stopped them altogether. So I don't think there is any other way to improve a situation that is quickly disappearing and seems like it can't and won't be cured. I constantly tell her how pretty she is and how lucky I am to be married to her hoping she'll acknowledge that to me she is very pretty. I guess in her eyes she does'nt think so. But on the other hand, she's dressed to kill with fishnets and heels, hair all made up but it's not for my eyes to see. It's how many looks from other men that she must be interested in appearently. Perhaps I should just give up and live my life as an inactive man and plant a garden! I really don't know how much longer I can go on like this without finding someone who can give me some satisfaction and relief! We need a man's club to have discussions and maybe give insight to other thoughts or procedures that do work. I am at a total lost in my marriage, please help!