"great Father"

So where do I begin,

My wife and I have been together for 10 years and have two beautiful, healthy daughters. Three years ago we suffered the loss of an unborn child due to an ectopic pregnancy...this was a sad and challanging time for us, certainly more so for my wife as she had to deal with both the physical as well mental anguish, also facing reality that this may be the end of her ability to gve birth without assistance, complication or risk.

We pulled through and foccussed on the great little girls we already had 'life goes on'...However, our sexual life came to an abrubt and seamingly definative 'END". For the first year after the loss, I surpressed my needs, feeling selfish considering what she had gone through, I instead purchased a puppy and foccused much of my time on our daughters and new family pet. By the second year, I became frustrated and angry at the situation. I tried several different approachs but every time was met with the same disintrested responses, 'sex is not that important to me', 'I don't feel attractive', 'I'm to busy with work to think about sex' etc...so, I purchased a second dog and continued to concentrate my energy on the girls...By the third year and tired of sleeping on a couch and constantly watching her spend more time on her iphone than partisapating in our relationship, I started questioning and re-thinking our entire marriage, does she not love me, am I not attractive to her, is she having an affair, am I even attracted to her any more?

Some of these I am fairly confident are untrue...She does work very hard, embroiled in a proffesional and challanging career, with the kids and work, she has every right to be tired, I am very self-confident and also hold a high profile position with nearly 200 staff, obviously many of them are female, I have been approached and propositioned many times but have never veered...it does give me some comfort in the fact that I am still attractive to others.  I am 40 in great physical condition, healthy mind and soul. However, I feel a 'HUGE' part of my life is missing, I have always been a very sexually active person, having several partners prior to marriage. Now I feel empty and as though, I am not the man everyone beleives me to be. I am extremely proud of my children and the fact that I remain a supportive and loving husband and 'Great Father'...However, I beleive that this fact should not consume or define my entire life, I have more to offer someone and deserve a life with affection, intImacy and physical interaction. I do not know how much longer I can pretend to be happy in this sexless, passionless relationship?

My belief has always been "I would rather be alone than be indifferent"...facing a future like this makes me think that, "I may have to practice what I preach or face being a pathetic hypocrite!"

PD