I Live In a Sexless Marriage
First off, this is kind of a 'repost,' as I put this in I am a husband....section first...thought maybe to a broader audience I might get another take.
I've been married to my wife for more than 10 years, together even longer. We've had our ups and downs in the relationship, but over the last 3-5 years the sex has dropped to nearly zero. I could probably do more to make her feel special, but to be honest after this much time and resentment, I just don't have it in me anymore to be rejected. I still 'try' from time to time, but mostly I try not to try (if that makes sense). based on averages I'd say that 5% of the time I try she is willing, so 95% of the time I am rejected and left not just angry, but actually quite hurt. I've been at the point for the last year where divorce has become a real option, but I don't want to lose my son. I know that I am not a perfect husband and I'm sure if she were writing something like this it would sound different (I can admit to this being one-sided). To be petty, it has been over 4 months since we've had sex, previously it had been about 3 months...(pretty much the same over the last few years). There were a couple of big events in the last 4 months where one would assume that sex would be part of the relationship, (again, petty here). Her birthday, our 10 year anniversary, Valentine's day, my 30th birthday...all of them uneventful. We went out of town to a wedding, had the hotel room to ourselves, and nothing but fighting. That last part is as much my fault as hers, my frustration with the days events and constantly waiting (we are now ALWAYS late for EVERYTHING) had me upset about how we were late for a party with some of my family, which she in turn said she didn't want to go. I waited for an hour to convince her to go; in hindsight probably more because I didn't want to explain to my family why she didn't come than because I wanted her there, but I did want her to go and have a good time.
So, just summing up the last 4 months is like the last 6-7 years of our marriage and I feel like I don't have any say in the relationship and that I am always wrong when I want something from it. I suppose I'm just venting, my apologies.
I've been married to my wife for more than 10 years, together even longer. We've had our ups and downs in the relationship, but over the last 3-5 years the sex has dropped to nearly zero. I could probably do more to make her feel special, but to be honest after this much time and resentment, I just don't have it in me anymore to be rejected. I still 'try' from time to time, but mostly I try not to try (if that makes sense). ba
So, just summing up the last 4 months is like the last 6-7 years of our marriage and I feel like I don't have any say in the relationship and that I am always wrong when I want something from it. I suppose I'm just venting, my apologies.
By:
inmytime
Age:
26-30
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Male
