Think I Am Getting SomewhereI posted a few days ago. Found your responses so helpful and a bit of a wake-up call to my negativity - made me think do I really want to bale out of my marriage even though I have had great sex with someone else. The other guy also in a sexless marriage - no sex in his case for 5 years - so getting both of us together was pretty explosive
. But I realise my husband and I do have so much in common - if only we could add to it the physical part! Decided that I really would have a heart to heart with husband about his medical issues and his impotence due to the very strong drugs he is on. I was as truthful and emotional as I could be - said that I felt as if I was dying of thirst and needed a drink.
He has made an appointment to go to the GP and ask about different drugs and also to tackle the other issues. Said that he hated his body - he is overweight - and can't stand the sight of huimself naked nor understand why anyone would want to touch him.. So we have started going to gym together and if he can have a positive attitude about himself and know that it isn't just about sex but intimacy and physicality, maybe that will take some of the pressure off.
I would be interested to find out if some people go off sex as their relationships go on tthrough the years because they don't like their own bodies - aging or overweight - and don't like themselves to be seen naked as they feel self-conscious. The partners who still want sex may feel more comfortable in their own bodies - has anyone else thought this?