Sexless MarriageMarried 41 years. No sex for over the last year. H had GI problems after first of last year for almost the entire year. I sympathized and did not push the issue, then he fell and has to have rotator cuff surgery. Yet ANOTHER excuse. He also said he was depressed over ouor credit card bills - well we refinance our home and paid off our cards. Funny, that did not help his DEPRESSION. I have not talked to him lately because I get excuse after excuse. I AM NOT DEAD, nor am I going to be his COMPANION.
My choices are the same as everyone on this blog - I am going to try therapy for myself to cope with it. We are too old to split up and I really dont want to. He is fine in every other way, he takes care of the yard and flower beds, repairs in the house, etc. etc. We go out with friends and belong to a old car group and go to car shows.
I have two daughters and 4 grandchildren - I know me leaving would DESTROY them. We went to counseling a couple years ago, but never addressed the no sex issue, I felt he skirted around it.
Thanks for listening.