I Live In a Sexless Marriage
When the disconnect gets to a certain point it seems that many refusers get very comfortable with the status quo. They adopt certain behaviors that they see as their expressions of love and concern for shall we say public consumption (the kids may be watching or listening). Several years back my wife started making sure that whenever I leave the house she always calls out to me to “Drive Careful” I’ve been driving for 42 years and never had an accident of any kind and have covered several million miles of road so that’s not a high probability but in her mind I think she’s demonstrating to my son that she’s a caring person.
Each morning before she goes to work she will seek me out and deliver a Vulture Peck (a close mouthed, cold lipped, sort of peckish thing that is supposed to be a kiss). That’s her daily demonstration of affection. Of course I know better since she told me a few years back that she never found me physically attractive and married me because I made her feel safe.
She always goes to bed when I come into the bedroom to watch TV before going to sleep usually about 9PM. I usually watch some TV till about 11 before I go to bed. She’s buried over on her side under a pile of quilts in her flannel pajamas even in the summertime. If I happen to touch her she will quickly jerk away while pretending she is asleep. Usually within a few minutes of turning the lights off she has moved to the recliner where she spends the rest of the night.
This has got to be such a predictable routine that I could set the clock by her actions. The other day we were over at my in-laws house and my father-in-law was going to town to get something from the grocery that had been ordered by his boss. When he started out the door suddenly I heard a familiar phrase “Drive Careful” and she gave him a “Vulture Peck” so I suppose the disease is inherited my in laws have been sexless for about 38 years since their last child was born. My father-in-law has talked to me about it a couple of times when his boss was not close by. So my wife thinks the life we are living as roommates is the way things are supposed to be, even though I’ve told her quite a few times that she’s dead wrong it never did sink in. So I’m the victim of an Old Family Tradition.
Each morning before she goes to work she will seek me out and deliver a Vulture Peck (a close mouthed, cold lipped, sort of peckish thing that is supposed to be a kiss). That’s her daily demonstration of affection. Of course I know better since she told me a few years back that she never found me physically attractive and married me because I made her feel safe.
She always goes to bed when I come into the bedroom to watch TV before going to sleep usually about 9PM. I usually watch some TV till about 11 before I go to bed. She’s buried over on her side under a pile of quilts in her flannel pajamas even in the summertime. If I happen to touch her she will quickly jerk away while pretending she is asleep. Usually within a few minutes of turning the lights off she has moved to the recliner where she spends the rest of the night.
This has got to be such a predictable routine that I could set the clock by her actions. The other day we were over at my in-laws house and my father-in-law was going to town to get something from the grocery that had been ordered by his boss. When he started out the door suddenly I heard a familiar phrase “Drive Careful” and she gave him a “Vulture Peck” so I suppose the disease is inherited my in laws have been sexless for about 38 years since their last child was born. My father-in-law has talked to me about it a couple of times when his boss was not close by. So my wife thinks the life we are living as roommates is the way things are supposed to be, even though I’ve told her quite a few times that she’s dead wrong it never did sink in. So I’m the victim of an Old Family Tradition.
By:
Warriorpoett
Age:
56-60
,
Male
