Still Mostly Sexless
We've been in marriage counseling for a few months now and things have been going better. We have both learned more about each other and our relationship. We've been having sex...not every week, but since we didn't have any intimacy for 14 months, it is a start. It is always exceptional and sometimes incredible! We each still have problem issues like any couple continue, but the reaffirmed love and intimacy have made it all more bearable. One of my issues is that she doesn't initiate (actually, once recently, but that has been the only time in the past 10 years except for one night she came home drunk from a work party. When we do it, she certainly likes it (there has been quite a bit of screaming!), but getting her to do it can be tough! I still feel a bit uncomfortable and self-conscious when we do it because of the insults (like tiny-dicked loser). I also get put on the spot sometimes as she feels that i take too long to get off...in fact, I have been timed! You see, she almost always climaxes before me and she feels that she is not doing enough or what have you. I let her know that I am honestly turned on by her...a lot! But we are both working hard to make our relationship stronger. I think we are getting there...slowly.