I've been married 9 years, been sexless for the last half of those 9 years. We've been through a lot of hardships over the past several years and have finally had the chance to seriously look at our marriage or lack thereof. We've been talking a lot about separating and have been wanting to do so civilly for the sake of our son. We've been in separate bedrooms for a while now and we've agreed there's no going back and trying to reconcile. Last night we had a serious conversation about separating. We know that financially we can't live in separate homes but we agreed that it's OK to start coming out to more friends, family, and others. We discussed taking off our rings and "putting ourselves out there". This is now suddenly feeling really weird - even thought I've been wanting this for quite a while now that it's here I'm feeling excited, confused, sad, anxious all at the same time. I know mixed feelings will probably be part of my future for a while now but it is mentally and emotionally freeing as well. I've always maintained that I wouldn't seek intimate relationships until we were separated - well I guess the light is turning from red to green! Having sex is kinda like riding a bike right? Anyway, thought I'd start practicing getting used to the idea of saying publicly that I'm separated or at least semi-publicly through EP.