Chicken Or The Egg

sub·or·di·nate (s-bôrdn-t)
1. Belonging to a lower or inferior class or rank; secondary.
2. Subject to the authority or control of another
One that is subordinate.
tr.v. (s-bôrdn-t) sub·or·di·nat·ed, sub·or·di·nat·ing, sub·or·di·nates
1. To put in a lower or inferior rank or class.
2. To make subservient; subdue.

As I read the numerous stories on this board, I am struck by the number of posters who report of counselors suggesting that 'sex is a secondary issue' or should be 'backburnered' until other issues are addressed. Then I reflect on Maslow. If sex is a basic need, on the base of the hierarchy, then why are mental health professionals minimizing its primacy? Are they so invested in preserving a failing marriage that they too want to deny the importance of physical intimacy?

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May 2, 2012