It Can Only Get Better?

Call a lawyer in your jurisdiction and see - theoretically - how a divorce would shake out for you.



Consider fully what you are advised. From that information - theoretically - put together an exit strategy, addressing in particular those matters which nyou regard as - theoretical - roadblocks.



At the conclusion of this process, you will have a theoretical alternative to your present misery. You will no longer be trapped by having no other option. You WILL have an option, albeit a theoretical one. Possibly too hard for you to execute at this time, but a viable alternative in a "worst case" scenario.



Now you have an alternative, you will no longer be basing your choices on fear, so you will likely make pretty good choices. That fact alone will shift the dynamic. At this stage you don't know "where" it might shift the dynamic to (though I bet your gut is giving you a pretty accurate prognosis).



You need to prepare now, for this theoretical scenario, as it is highly likely to end up being the factual situation.



Tread your own path.

I am amazed that you could even achieve an erection after that description of the lack of involvement from the wife!



Well, your intimate life reads done (taken into context with your first story when you told us that the last time you had sexual intercourse was Dec 2010). She is totally checked out. Too long as passed and the intimacy is dead.



While sad, I hope this last attempt (assuming this is/was your last attempt) will provide you some peace of mind that you did the best you could with what you had - and that knowledge of your efforts will help you formulate where to go from here.



You tried, were shot down - now you can move on to a different path and get to living a higher quaity of life.



With, or without, the wife.

There are an a Army of those clones and unfortunately all of them were programmed to marry some unsuspecting man and then attempt castration by neglect. You've just been given a lesson in how to show your roommate that you don't love him and that you would rather be raped by bigfoot than have anything to do with him. So now it's time to say goodbye and join the family here at ILIASM The freedom train is waiting see a conductor (lawyer) and get your ticket on the next express to divorceville. That's the only solution to dusty **** disease.

Sounds like you would be more successful initiating with a stranger, your wife is resisting you with everything she has. I would take that as it is time to move on for good, there is nothing to work with in this relationship.