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On The Verge Of Divorcing

I hope this story doesn't bring anybody down, but unfortunately it probably will.. I am new to this post, and have no reason to hide anything about my life.. First of all, I am a 59 y.o. male trapped in a "sexless marriage" for many years. The reason for this is not easy to write about for the first time.. I'm sure all of you have experienced this at some point in the introduction.. Anyway, for the past ten years I have not had any sexual contact with my spouse despite the fact of a 33 year marriage.. The first few years everything was going great, but the spark and intensity went away..It started when I asked her to spice it up and to try different sexual positions and different ways of doing it..She didn't want any part of it and started to push me away..She would make up excuses like, "Only ****** do that" or "Take a cold shower".. I started feeling rejected especially since I was always very passionate and wanted to express my love for her with sex..Isn't this a normal feeling, or was I asking too much from her?.. The past few years have been very difficult and the thought of divorce has been flying around in my head..A woman can say no to her man at any time and expect a marriage to last.? I don't think so..
jussexlessme jussexlessme 56-60, M 8 Responses May 9, 2012

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The old ***** thing is priceless (I've heard similar things justifying self-serving behaviors because they couldn't possibly prostitute themselves).



Because, if you think about it, they are ****** who've rolled their john. They reduce it to a transaction, then, adding injury to insult - don't deliver.



And you've now come to the realisation that you're human. What are you gonna do?

I feel for you, it is sad when we waste so many years trying to work things out in a bad relationship. Each day wasted is a day we will never gain back in the days of our life. I wish you the very best moving forward.

If you truly are on the verge of divorce, get yourself off to a lawyer in your jurisdiction a.s.a.p..



If you are just bouncing the concept around in your head, make an appointment with a lawyer for a weeks time and in the meantime read 50 random stories and comments on this board.



Tread your own path.

Call a divorce lawyer now.







" I started feeling rejected especially since I was always very passionate and wanted to express my love for her with sex..Isn't this a normal feeling, or was I asking too much from her?.. "

YES!!! You are asking too much from her because she does not love you.



She has not loved you for a long time. She probably never really did love you from the start.



Do the math.

passionate sex = express your love for her with sex FOR YOU

The missing link FOR HER is that she does not have love for you. So, for her to have sex with a man who genuinely loves her makes her feel like the despicable parasitic unloving spouse she truly is.







She used the term *****???

****** have sex purely so that they can acquire material wealth in exchange. ****** do not have sex to express their love for the men they fvck.



Your wife does not want to have sex with you because otherwise, the math will add up to YOUR WIFE = *****.

Ron is a smart man. Listen well.

"......I asked her to spice it up and to try different sexual positions and different ways of doing it..,She would make up excuses like, 'Only ****** do that'"





Oh my. I am SUCH a *****. ha.

Me too :)

Me, too.

Me too! And me Two ;-)

Yep,as well... Very much so...:0

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READ the many stories and forum posts here. There are many people who know exactly what you are feeling, what you have lived through and how desperate it makes you feel. By reading here, and posting too,you will learn a lot about sexless marriage. This will help you make informed decisions about your future.

"Only ****** do that."



You have to laugh. Was she ever careless enough to say that within earshot of a girlfriend or female relative who might have been that sort of *****? That sort of retort is just one step down from "The **** off and die, why don't you?" retort for all it's diplomatic tact, guile, class and, umm, intellectual rigour. It smacks of "I can't be bothered giving you a meaningful and acceptable answer, so you will have to make do with this".

Only ******? Oh good, now I know where to go to get what I need!

"The first few years"- how many "few"? You are just an absolutely normal healthy man with natural desires.... What is really sad as that you waited for many years to ask this question.... When I read such stories, I just think don't you, guys, watch tv, movies? Don't you or your wife read magazines? Newspapers? Don't you pass by book shelves with a lot of books on improving sex life? Everybody talking about sex... Everybody having it.... Why for you it would be suddenly too much?