Should I Run For The Hills, Or Is It Too Late????Hi All,
My husband and I got married a month ago. We were living together for 4 years before actually getting married.
We were always happy together, he always makes me laugh and we have a great friendship. But the other side of things are a little off.
For about 3 years now hes never been all over me. He makes me happy by trying to do things i enjoy but the sex was very rare.
We are a young couple hes 28 and i am 22. So for me once a week seems rare. Maybe normal to others but for people in our age group it seems weird!
As we were planning our wedding he and I were both very stressed, so i assumed that maybe we were disconnected due to wedding planning.
He had depression long before we started a relationship together and it was always a reason for the lack of intamacy.
The past 8 months he has been off all antidepressants. And has never felt better. Hes more confident and happier.
He even got a tattoo. hes like a new man.
Before we got married I enjoyed this new man. He was more attractive in my eyes and the man I have long for.
Now we got married - the wedding day to say the least is a fog. But that day was more about him, then us and our commitment.
We got to our hotel on our wedding night, and NOTHING! Okay you can be too tired, but weres the affection??? We just got married??
Shouldnt there be this conncection? All he did that night was complain about the service we receive which was not up to his standards. And thats where its started. Hes aggressive, always argues with me about anything and everything with others...
I dont know what to do anymore. Our honeymoon was also like two friends on a holiday, sure we had sex. But its more then that. It didnt feel intimate if you know what i mean. Theres no passion in this relationship...
We booked 2 islands and then we get to our second where I booked no activities, so we can just enjoy eachother and all he wants to do is organise activites. We havent had time to have a nice romantic dinner together walk along the beach - we were in Maui for goodnest sake!!!
He complained about everywhere we went about the food the service. By the end of it i was stress ready to go home and got the flu.
Its been a month we have been married - i have talked to him time and time again about all this. And nothing has changed.
he says hes stressed at work and dosnt mean to use me as a punching bag but the promise of changing keeps on being broken.
He shuts me out, dosnt have time to put a movie on and just cuddle up...
Who is this man????
We have been talking about our future and starting a family together, but im afraid....
We argued last night because he didnt get to play his playstation. I mean he has time to think about playin games but no time to organise to spend time together???
I even organised a couples therapist... that was a no go too.
What else can I do?? we just got married... am i over reacting?? Please help me :(