What To Do???Ok so here goes!
I have been with my husband for 6 years married for almost 4.
at the start of our relationship we spent every minute together, we work at the same workplace, he moved in with me after 3 months of first getting together, he has joined an organization I am involved in (which is annoying as it was my thing), and he likes to spend every waking minute with me. I like spending time together but I also need my time apart and he does not understand this, at times I feel like I am being suffocated by him.
To make it worse, I am lucky to get sex once a month, and for me I am sorry but that is no where near enough! My main issue with my relationship is the lack of sex, but have kind of learnt to live with that now. He says his just not interested in sex....
He has changed a lot over the past 2 years, he doesn't care about anything anymore. He does not take pride in his appearance, he has started to let his personal hygiene go at times, his childish and immature, acts like a 15 year old and his 42! He won't do a thing to help around the house except take the rubbish out, he has not cut the lawns for over 3 months, if I cook a meal for dinner he won't eat it, he would rather order a pizza or get fish and chips, and my cooking is not bad at all!
am I being to picky? Are all men like this? I am honestly not happy in this marriage, as I said the lack of sex is what started the whole chain of me being annoyed and frustrated with him and the more I look at him the more I don't like him.
What should I do? I have suggested councelling but he won't go, I am 31 this year and want to start a family but have put off having any children as I know I am not happy and don't want to bring in children to a loveless marriage... He says he loves me all the time, and I just can't bring myself to say it back anymore. I don't want to hurt him but I know I am going to. I don't want to be the bad guy!