What Is The End Game?

The lack of sexual intimacy in my marriage is taking its toll on me and I find myself working hard not to feel resentment. The worst of it is the loss of feeling desirable. Is a man supposed to have such feelings - I dunno - but there it is.

Throughout our marriage I have been the one to initiate sex except for one instance - and that stands out precisely because it was a solitary instance. Yet, I did not fail to see to my partner's satisfaction even though more and more her lack of response outside of that had left me cold. Now, at my age, even though there is affection between us, I am profoundly unsatisfied. I am contemplating an affair, but, especially at my age, see little chance of that.

So what is the end game of all this:
- unwilling chastity?
- a bitter and resentful decline?
- anomie and alienation?
- misogyny?

I can't see anything positive.
Thank you for letting me vent.
GTR1400 GTR1400
61-65, M
2 Responses May 21, 2012

Add to your list of end game outcomes -<br />
- separation<br />
- divorce<br />
- negotiated open marriage<br />
- mandated open marriage<br />
<br />
Tread your own path.

You might be surprised at what you find when you start contemplating an affair. <br />
You seem to have convinced yourself that your age is an obstacle. <br />
You might want to rethink your assumptions.