They Believe Their Own Lies
I can't get past this because what I'm seeing here confirms it. The people that we call refusers believe their own lies, they make up little stories that they tell themselves about how their lives are and believe that's reality. That's the only way I can account for some of the things that I've seen here. I saw a comment a while ago where someone was looking at her mate’s face-book page where he was describing the breakup of his marriage as out of the blue. The reality was years of being a refuser and torturing his mate in a sexless marriage but this guy believes it was out of the blue and didn't recognize that anything was wrong with the way things were. It means that they are totally zoning us out whenever we express dissatisfaction with them or our marriage. It's like there is a circuit in their brain that cuts out when it hears anything about sex, relationship, or intimacy.
I guess we need to all buy a two by four or a ba
I suppose what we need to do is come up with a dead eyed zombie test so we could avoid them, maybe we can find a way to make something they can pee on like a pregnancy test and it will turn black as an indicator that they are dead inside. But with so many new members here and the divorce rate through the roof. I think we need to rethink how we handle relationships because traditional marriage just isn't doing a very good job for too many people, so much for my daily tirade from the soapbox.