What Would Be Enough?

I have been wondering what would be enough to make us happy. We have all tried to make our SO more sexually responsive but would that solve the problem? Would we be happy with an unmotivated BJ, or a lame *******, maybe “just laying there” sex? I know I want a partner that will **** my brains out.

Yes, yes I know, small baby steps… but dreaming is free…
SilentThinker SilentThinker
41-45, M
3 Responses May 25, 2012

It is isnt really about the sex by the time you get here even if you dont know it. The sexlessness is a symptom of absolute dysfunction.<br />
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I have read so many stories where there is eventually sex and the refused realises that in fact the marriage really is over; that it seemed that it was about a lack of sex but what was really wrong was the lack of any kind of real relationship.<br />
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Even mediocre sex is great when you are with someone with whom you are connected, with whom you have intimacy and trust.

What would be enough? spouses that are capable of love AND respect AND connection.

I'd suggest not, but that is a personal viewpoint, and is made out the rearview mirror.<br />
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The sex ain't the problem.<br />
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There are relationships in this world that are not so great at the foundation but great sex can and does paper over the cracks. Sometimes for years.<br />
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Without that component, ie an ILIASM marriage, the dud foundations are exposed, and nothing, not even the emergence of great sex is going to cover the cracks.<br />
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Let alone shithouse sex.<br />
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Tread your own path.