Am I Crazy Or Just Normal?

Go out and enjoy yourself. Waiting for him will be a wait forever. I'm a little bitter. I put up with promises for far too long. I not waiting any longer.

I have the same problem plus prostrate surgery left me unable to obtain an erection even with the pills. I thought this is really unfair to my wife even though she seemed happy with what I could do for her with fingers, so I told her that if she needed to seek sexual gratification that her having extra marital sex would be ok with me as long as she told me that she was doing it..She just smiled and never commented and as far as I know she has never done it.

Thinking about cheating you say??? Consult a divorce lawyer and start planning your exit strategy. Because no matter how disintrested your husband is in sex now his reaction to any sort of affair is bound to be volcanic



Also good idea to keep losing the weight.



Stay Strong & Good Luck

It is an interesting tactic.

Tub up so you are less attractive so the chances of someone outside the marriage wanting to screw you are lessened.

It 'sort of' makes sense at some level, but also seems fatally flawed.



See, if someone wants to do you, what body shape you have is mostly immaterial. They want to do you in the here and now, not put you on the back burner until you have gained / lost "X" number of kgs.



So I reckon that your risk of "being an unfaithful wife" is pretty much the same as anyone else in a dysfunctional marriage. High. Very high.



However, adopting a lifestyle that brings about a healthy weight is a worthwhile aim in and of itself, related to sexual desirability only if you so choose it to be.



Anyway, back to the business at hand.



As a spouse in a dysfunctional marriage, your risk of the union collapsing is heightened. Your risk of cheating (precipitating a divorce potentially) is also higher.



It can be a smart move to recognise these risk factors, and start putting together a contingency plan to mitigate the potential fallout. Say by getting a legal opinion about the implications a divorce might have in your jurisdiction. This knowledge can't hurt.



Tread your own path.

I'm dealing with something that is physically changing my life forever and I'm only 28. It has definitely affected my sex life to the point of arguments. We went from rabbits to turtles overnight. I do what I can but I don't know what's gonna happen to us.

Keep losing the weight and file for divorce whenever it suits you.

This is a hard situation. Take care of yourself. Be kind to your body give it the right food and activity. Regardless of your dress size, being healthy will improve the quality of your life. If love comes to you as a result of your sexless relationship, you can cross that bridge when you get there. Good luck.

Best wishes. life is to precious to waste on miserable loveless partners.