I Slept In The Guestroom Last NightWe weren't fighting, in fact in was a decent day. But in order not to make my wife feel any pressure at all, I just slept in the guestroom last night. She has no desire to be physically close and has had recent issues so I just decided this would put her mind at ease. She never gave my decision a second thought since I told her it was because she's a very loud sleeper. This morning she commented that she slept really well and felt rested. Now I sense she's indirectly saying she likes this arrangement.
I will admit that my decision was a result of my passive aggressive nature. This was a lousy action on my part because I can not discuss directly my true feelings. Those feelings are I'm starving for affection and intimacy which my wife finds to be a minefield to be avoided. Maybe, just maybe... she'll begin to look inwardly and ask herself what's going on. If I brought up the subject she would instantly be turned off. She needs to be in control. All I'm doing is planting the concept that something isn't right.
I know.. I know... it's a very flawed plan. A direct approach has never been successful in the past.