Are You A Refuser?I have reached a conclusion today.
We, the refused, are refusers.
How so, you ask? Simple.
We refuse to recognize just how big a big a problem we have.
We refuse to accept that life can be different
We refuse to accept that we have the personal power to make the changes we need to be happy.
We refuse to believe that we can get the money we need to divorce
We refuse to believe that our spouses understand what they are doing to us.
We refuse to blame them for what they have done to us
We refuse to recognize the depth of the damage it does to be refused over and over again by someone who 'loves' us
We refuse to believe that they stopped loving us
We refuse to believe that they stopped caring about our real, physical needs.
But most of all, we refuse to believe that we are, in fact, desirable and good people. We refuse to believe this because they refuse us.
But I say, I am a refuser too.
I REFUSE to look at plain facts and treat them as 'complicated'
I REFUSE to say "It's just sex"
I REFUSE to support someone who does not support me in the most basic human way.
I REFUSE to hold her blameless. EVERYONE has a CHOICE in how they CHOOSE to keep their spouse happy!
I REFUSE to believe that her feelings are valid. They are not. They are ba
But most of all,
I REFUSE to stick around
I REFUSE to go back
I REFUSE to ever be in such a situation again.
I REFUSE to buy the lie. If you don't want me, it doesn't mean anything other than this: you don't want me.
Repeat ten times:
They don't want you, they only want you around.