I'm new here and have read many of your stories. It's all very heartbreaking, really. Thankfully I'm not in a sexless marriage. I am engaged and found this site while searching for information on my predicament. I wholeheartedly love my fiancee but the lack of sex is killing me. We found out 7 months ago that he has diabetes so I've tried to be forgiving and understand that he has health issues that may contribute to his lack of desire. I've talked with him about it several times, how it makes me feel and how it has to change for us to work. He's promised to talk to his doctor but still hasn't after 2 months. Even though I've told him, I feel he's clueless about how much this affects me. I've stopped at drawing a hard line and could really use advice. I'm going to confront him on this again soon and am wondering what a reasonable time limit is to give him on seeing the doctor. He's a procrastinator so I feel I need to set a specific date for this to be done by.
Thank you all so much for sharing your stories here. Before I found this group I was thinking that I could marry this man (even if the sex was rare) but I've come to understand that I'd just be setting myself up for much further heartache and a divorce down the road. I love him but little to no sex is a deal breaker for me.