Moved Out....and....well...i Feel Nothing

You're feeling the way you do because you know deep down it was the right decision...nothing to second-guess, so no negative emotions. And to answer the last bit, yo can only do it when you are ready. Don't belabor THAT point... best of luck

I think that is great that you did what you needed to do, you listened to that little voice inside that said it's time to go...intuition. Why does it take us so long to listen, I did the same thing and stayed with a couple of exes alittle too long. So now you are a free man and you have so much to experience. After leaving my ex, I felt sad and numb at times, but once I got over it, I was very happy. Yes, at times it is lonely, but that only means that you have to get out there and meet new friends. There are many ways to meet people, but what works for me is being a member of meetup.com which offers so many get togethers for people with similar interest. This site has got me meeting new friends and doing things I love like country dancing, tennis, and Spanish conversation. I recommend for you to get out and meet new people by doing things you enjoy.

If you've belabored this for years, as you say, then you've probably also grieved already, bit by bit.



The "shoe may or may not drop", but don't anticipate it or regret it- and to quote part of a line from a movie (dang, forget the name!)

"get busy living !"

I was lucky too when I left.



In retrospect I realise I had done all my grieving and processing whilst still in the shithole marriage, so there wasn't a real lot of drama to embrace once I'd gone.



Tread your own path.

Takes a few hours until the lidocaine (sp?) fades away. Then takes a few days again for the pain to go. It all passes (tm).

Welcome to the club!! No matter how many times you tell someone that is how they will feel, they just can't believe it til they experience it...



So happy for you!

Hahahaha I soooooo know what you mean! It's like you're waiting for the other shoe to drop and, and, and, and....it just doesn't. For me, it never did come. It was almost too good to be true. But it was, it was!!!! :)



Glad you're out. The non-insanity takes getting used to but it's completely awesome. :)



Princess HaveAMargarita

The lack of feeling is your brain protecting you from terrible grief.



Grief will come once you feel steady enough to work through it.

It happened to me too.



It's OK to feel relief. That would be relief because you are relieved that you are no longer being choked to death by some deranged control freak.



'Doesn't make you a bad person.



Does make you a good guy who finally stuck up for himself and is going to get laid one of these days.

"Live and learn". Next time you'll be much quicker to leave a bad situation; and you can teach your child the same.



Some lessons take decades, apparently (hey for me too!)

You sound disappointed! :-)



Try not to be. You have probably already spent much of your unhappiness. What you sense now is a strange thing call 'relief'. However, there is always time and scope for 'gotchas'. So, bear that in mind.

I can sympathize with your "prisoner in jail" analogy. I stayed with my ex-wife for thirty years between dating and marriage. Not only was she asexual, she was also a narcissist. It basically destroyed my self confidence and self-esteem and the only I tolerated it was because I never trusted her as a parent. Now my life is a bright white canvas looking to be filled.



Don't look back, look forward to the new, fresh and happy life that's waiting for you once the shock and awe subsides.