I Live In a Sexless Marriage
My wife hates me. She has explicitly stated that on several occasions. She is as miserable in this marriage as I am. So you would think she would welcome the news that I am ending the torture. But I get the usual shock, accusations of infidelity, and tears. I don't get a single indication of any effort to try to change things. We still sleep in separate beds, eat meals apart, and only talk in the most superficial way. Rather, she is digging a trench and preparing for a long wait.
I am thankful that she skipped the "I'll do better" song and dance. But what the hell do these refusers want? They turn up their passive aggresso generator to overdrive and refuse to budge, even though they may be as miserable as you, when you offer an amicable exit from a horrible situation.
I know for many of them they are just trying to cling to an arrangement, not to hold on to you. But in this case, she is attractive and has social skills and could easily find a man who can give her what she wants. She does have a very good arrangement here, but she could get a better one, one that not only takes care of her but with a guy who has the emotional availability, ambition, social skills, kissing skills, conversationalism, listening skills, and attentiveness I apparently lack. That and he would not request doggystyle. Very important.
But she digs in her heels. She does nothing.
This is more of academic interest than anything. I just can't understand why a person who has other options wants to remain in misery. And no, I can't ask her. All I get is some nonsense about I'm the One. So here I am in the Sexless Matrix trying to work around a person who hates me and won't let go.
I am thankful that she skipped the "I'll do better" song and dance. But what the hell do these refusers want? They turn up their passive aggresso generator to overdrive and refuse to budge, even though they may be as miserable as you, when you offer an amicable exit from a horrible situation.
I know for many of them they are just trying to cling to an arrangement, not to hold on to you. But in this case, she is attractive and has social skills and could easily find a man who can give her what she wants. She does have a very good arrangement here, but she could get a better one, one that not only takes care of her but with a guy who has the emotional availability, ambition, social skills, kissing skills, conversationalism, listening skills, and attentiveness I apparently lack. That and he would not request doggystyle. Very important.
But she digs in her heels. She does nothing.
This is more of academic interest than anything. I just can't understand why a person who has other options wants to remain in misery. And no, I can't ask her. All I get is some nonsense about I'm the One. So here I am in the Sexless Matrix trying to work around a person who hates me and won't let go.
By:
88ElmiraSt
Age:
46-50
,
Male
