I Live In a Sexless Marriage
This being Father's Day I was reminded of something and I'm curious to know how many other deprived people here share a similar experience.
From time to time my wife will inquire as to what I want or feel like doing for my birthday or Father's Day or the like. These days I usually say either anything or nothing. In the early years I asked to make love on a few occasions and it was just sort of laughed off and dismissed. Many years ago, probably 10 or more, as I laid in bed the night of my birthday, knowing nothing was going to happen...again, I couldn't hold it in any longer. I asked her whether she realized and didn't find it odd that over the course of our entire marriage we had never ever made love on any special occasion. This would include our wedding night(she did manage it exactly once on our honeymoon), Valentine's Days, birthdays, Father's Days, etc. She made love to me that night but as you can imagine the fact that I had to bring it up detracted significantly from the experience emotionally. That one time was it, never before, and not once since. As I've since learned to to keep my masochistic tendencies in check, I won't be bringing it up again. Not tonight, not ever. I treat "what would you like to do for ...?" as one of those rhetorical questions that I need not dignify with any kind of thoughtful reflection or response, much like "why are you in such a bad mood today?".
For the other fathers out there, a Happy Father's Day to you.
From time to time my wife will inquire as to what I want or feel like doing for my birthday or Father's Day or the like. These days I usually say either anything or nothing. In the early years I asked to make love on a few occasions and it was just sort of laughed off and dismissed. Many years ago, probably 10 or more, as I laid in bed the night of my birthday, knowing nothing was going to happen...again, I couldn't hold it in any longer. I asked her whether she realized and didn't find it odd that over the course of our entire marriage we had never ever made love on any special occasion. This would include our wedding night(she did manage it exactly once on our honeymoon), Valentine's Days, birthdays, Father's Days, etc. She made love to me that night but as you can imagine the fact that I had to bring it up detracted significantly from the experience emotionally. That one time was it, never before, and not once since. As I've since learned to to keep my masochistic tendencies in check, I won't be bringing it up again. Not tonight, not ever. I treat "what would you like to do for ...?" as one of those rhetorical questions that I need not dignify with any kind of thoughtful reflection or response, much like "why are you in such a bad mood today?".
For the other fathers out there, a Happy Father's Day to you.
By:
nonookie
Age:
46-50
,
Male
