You Pay Now - The Kids Can Pay Later.So although your marriage is dysfunctional, and you'd like to leave your intimacy averse spouse, you have chosen to stay.
"For the kids"
It is a noble sacrifice you are making. It is going to continue to take a toll on your mental health, your self esteem and well being. But with a bit of pharmaceutical help you ought be able to survive. It won't be a real lot of fun, but hey !, the kids come first, and it is far better to provide them with a predictable ba
Or have you ?
YOU are already paying a price for your choice to stick with your intimacy averse spouse, but that might NOT be the end of the price. There will likely be a further price to be paid. NOT by you. But by your kids.
There are your kids. Watching, observing, soaking up what is going on in the house. "Daddys are strong and silent". "Mummys do what Daddy says" The little sponges absorb it all. "Mummys take pills". "Mummys cry". Every little thing, in it goes into those developing minds. "Daddys yell at Mummys". "Mummys look sad". "Daddys and Mummys do not fight, or argue, or touch". The kids education goes on. ba
And now, a decade or two has passed, and it is time for the kids to start choosing their own partner for the next stage of their life.
What are they going to ba
Might your son be prone to behaving like his father, and seek out a woman like his mother to accomodate that ?? Might your daughter be prone to behaving like her mother, and seek out a man like her father to accomodate that ??
Might these kids be condemned to experience their own personal pain by unwittingly choosing to get themselves into intimacy averse marriages ??
Might it be them, your kids, who end up paying the end price of your choice way back when, to "stay for the kids" ??
Worth thinking about I'd suggest.
In the here and now, where you make the choice to stay for the kids, it may seem to be the right thing to do. The honourable thing to do. The moral thing to do.
It may not be so at all. It may well be the kids who end up picking up the tab.
Tread your own path.