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That's What Makes You Strong

We spend a lot of time in this group, wondering "Is it my fault?" "Was I to blame?" "What was wrong with me?" "How did I get in this situation?" "Why did I stay???"

I told my counselor I felt stupid (STUPID!) for staying so long. And she said, no, not stupid. Probably too smart, finding ways to keep things working for so long. Smart, adapting and working around and keeping my own self more or less intact. (Oh, yeah, and codependent and enabling, although she didn't say that.)

Anyhow, a singer in our church sang this song (below) during the service on Sunday. "...And to trust somebody - Is to be disappointed - It's never what you wanted - And it happens every time - But if you're the trusting kind - This don't even cross your mind ..."

I was quietly in tears. LNG and I squeezed hands, as this song applied to both of us, for different reasons.

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That's What Makes You Strong
(c) Jesse Winchester

If you love somebody
Then that means you need somebody
And if you need somebody
That's what makes you weak
But if you know you're weak
And you know you need someone
O it's a funny thing
That's what makes you strong

That's what makes you strong
That's what gives you power
That's what lets the meek come sit beside the king
That's what lets us smile
In our final hour
That's what moves our souls
And that's what makes us sing

And to trust somebody
Is to be disappointed
It's never what you wanted
And it happens every time
But if you're the trusting kind
This don't even cross your mind
O it's a funny thing
That's what makes you strong

That's what makes you strong
That's what gives you power
That's what lets the meek come sit beside the king
That's what lets us smile
In our final hour
That's what moves our souls
And that's what makes us sing

Chai07 Chai07 51-55, F 5 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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You just turned strong on its head. The person who does not need anyone is suppose to be strong! The truth is that people who know they need love are the strong ones. It takes strength to love and be loved, to be vulnerable. I think it makes life richer!

Need a bit of processing time on this one.<br />
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See, when I was in the stresses and strains of a dysfunctional marriage and a lot of other **** in my life, I handled it all pretty well, and coped with the pressure very well. At times I thrived on it, truth be told.<br />
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These days, nearing 3 years out, I do NOT handle stress in the same manner as I used to do. I find stress stressful. And back in the day, I didn't.<br />
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I think that these days, I am a mentally 'weaker' person than I was. But funnily enough, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life.<br />
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I think I may have veered off track a bit here Chai. <br />
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Tread your own path.

Chai, I love, love, love the song. And loved Jesse Winchester too, Blue.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LAI2EC-nEos<br />
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*sniffle* guy has a nice set o' pipes.

Thanks for sharing this, Chai...<br />
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(sniffle)<br />
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-MR

Well ...
"But if you know you're weak
And you know you need someone
O it's a funny thing
That's what makes you strong"

May we all be strong from now on.